A Giant Step Toward Accepting Gays - Elizabeth Wagele
July 6, 2010 – Psychology Today
Documentary sets good examples for parents of gays.
…So I was happy to see a documentary movie on PBS recently about parents' reactions to finding out their children were gay called "Anybody and Everybody" by Susan Polis Schultz. In it, families across the country from such diverse backgrounds as Japanese, Bolivian, and Cherokee, and from various religious denominations such as Mormon, Jewish, Roman Catholic, Hindu, and Southern Baptist discuss their experiences. There have been quite a few movies about gay issues, but this may be the first dealing primarily with the parents-and, unlike my cartoon up there, the reactions they've chosen to include are mostly positive ones, which was inspiring to me. This movie is a resource to keep in mind if you are a gay person facing the prospect of telling your parents or if you know of a family anticipating a similar situation. (Up to 26% of gay teens that come out to their parents or guardians are told they must leave home.)
The parents in the film worry about their sons and daughters being harmed, dealing with not being accepted by relatives or friends, and being ostracized by religious congregations. "It was so evil and so bad that we almost couldn't talk about it... You just had the idea it was so terrible that it was unspeakable," said a Mormon mother in the film-my favorite interviewee. "Having heard all these awful things and what homosexuality was and then having a member of your family, a person that you have seen, a child that you have seen since the child was born, a person that was absolutely wholesome, good, kind, gentle and that put together with the word lesbian didn't add up," said a Hispanic mother. Literature for the documentary states: "Of the approximately 1.6 million homeless American youth, 20-40% identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. Nearly 40% of GLBT students report being physically harassed. In a 2001 Department of Health study of youth in Massachusetts, about 40 percent of gay and lesbian students attempted suicide, compared to about 10 percent of their heterosexual peers."Read complete article:
Elizabeth Wagele (http://www.wagele.com/) is a writer, cartoonist and musician who lives in Berkeley, CA, with her husband, Gus, where they raised four children and enjoy visits from their grandchildren. In 1994, HarperCollins published a popular book on the Enneagram personality system by Elizabeth and her friend, Renee Baron, called "The Enneagram Made Easy," which is now used all over the world. She followed that with books on relationships, parenting, introverts, a children's book, and a CD on Beethoven where she plays excerpts from his piano sonatas and discusses his personality.
Elizabeth Wagele is the co-author with Ingrid Stabb of The Career Within You: How to Find the Perfect Job for Your Personality.http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/bloggers/elizabeth-wagele
Dr. Caitlin Ryan - Family Acceptance Project™
Fr. Marty Kurylowicz "Impending rules on gay priests create Catholic divide"
by Charles Honey – October 8, 2005
The Grand Rapids Press
When the Rev. Martin Kurylowicz came out to his Sparta parish eight years ago, he said he had struggled for years with his homosexuality.
The Catholic priest says the struggle would be made harder for many others if the Vatican issues new rules that reportedly would ban gays from becoming priests…
…"I sizzled when I read it," said Kurylowicz, 55. "It's very hurtful, is what it is. In this day and age, there's no reason for it. It sends a message that there's something wrong with gays."
Kurylowicz said he spoke out then to raise awareness of violence against gays and teach others homosexuality is not a choice but an inborn trait. Church leaders still don't understand that and contribute to gays' poor self-esteem, he said…
…"Kids as young as 4 or 5 know they're different," said Kurylowicz, a psychotherapist… "They grow up with this pervasive guilt, which sabotages their growth and motivation." The result is thousands of dollars in therapy to accept their natural orientation, he said, adding,
"Does the Vatican want to take that on, like the tobacco industry had to take on for the damage it caused consumers? "…
Read complete article: by Charles Honey - Religion Editor - The Grand Rapids Press – Archives
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Judge Vaughn Walker
On Prop 8, it's the evidence, stupid
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Kids Are Being Hurt!!!
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“Hope of Love”
To Children In Early Childhood
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Does Not Give Churches Or Benedict XVI
The Freedom To Abuse Children or Adults.
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The Lucifer Effect: Understanding How Good People Turn Evil
By Philip Zimbardo - Stanford University
Blaming the Victim
Ellen Langer - Harvard University
“Someday, maybe, there will exist
a well-informed, well considered and yet fervent public conviction
that the most deadly of all possible sins
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Vatican 'to ban new gay priests'
Friday, 23 September 2005
The Vatican is to ban all gay men from joining the clergy even if they accept a vow of celibacy, reports say.
The late Pope John Paul II ordered a review of the Catholic church's policy on homosexuality after US priests were involved in child sex abuse.
A formal announcement is expected in the coming months, but Vatican sources have confirmed US newspaper leaks.
The Vatican has regularly made clear its opposition to gay priests, calling homosexuals "intrinsically disordered".Read complete article – BBC News
Vatican Considers Ban on Gay Priests
NPR - September 27, 2005
The Vatican is expected to release a document saying homosexuals will be banned from joining the priesthood even if they are celibate.
John Allen, Vatican correspondent for the National Catholic Reporter
Jerry Pokorsky, Pastor at the Diocese of Lincoln
Richard Sipe, co-author of the forthcoming book Sex, Priests, and Secret Codes: The Catholic Church's 2000 Year Paper Trail of Sexual Abuse.
Read or listen – NPR
Vatican Document Said to Ban Gay Priests
By IAN FISHER - November 12, 2005
The New York Times
ROME, Nov. 11 - A Vatican document would ban new priests who "present deeply rooted homosexual tendencies" but would not exclude candidates who suppressed any gay tendencies roughly four years before their final ordination, an Italian newspaper, Il Giornale, reported Friday.
The article presented the most detailed account yet, including direct quotations, of a document that has been in the works for a decade and has provoked heated debate on homosexuality in Catholic seminaries and in the priesthood itself.Read complete article:
Vatican affirms ban on gay priests
AP Associated Press – msnbc.msn.com
Tues., Nov . 29, 2005
VATICAN CITY - The Vatican on Tuesday published its long-awaited document on gays in the priesthood, saying that men with “deep-seated” gay tendencies shouldn’t be ordained but that those with “transitory” tendencies could be if they had overcome them for three years.
The official release of the “Instruction” from the Congregation for Catholic Education came a week after an Italian Catholic news agency posted a leaked copy on its Web site. As a result, the document’s contents were already known.Read complete article:
A Vatican Retreat on Homosexuality
By Ellen Goodman - Saturday, December 3, 2005
BOSTON -- Somewhere along the way the dividing line over gay issues picked up and moved. It's no longer between red and blue states, or left and right wings, but between nature and nurture. Or, to be more precise, between those who believe that homosexuality is a choice and those who believe that homosexuality is innate.Read complete article:
VATICAN BANS HOMOSEXUALS
November 29, 2005 – PBS – NewsHour
Vatican plan to block gay priests
Jamie Doward Sunday 28 August 2005
The Observer – guardian.co.uk
Vatican issues gay policy document
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
World – CNN.com
Vatican publishes, defends gay priest document
November 29, 2005