Friday, October 2, 2009

Gay Marriage - Truth Will Set Us Free - Not Ignorance and Fear – by Fr. Marty Kurylowicz

People against Marriage Equality do not base their public statements on facts either from science or the bible. The only position left for being against gay rights or gay marriage is for personal reasons. Any Politician or public speaker or bishop or pope needs to have had thoroughly examined his or hers personal sexual orientation and gender identity before speaking publicly. Because researchers have clearly shown us that components of human sexuality are on continuums. This means that nearly everyone is a mixture of LGBT components to some degree, the variations on this are likely as complex as DNA. I am supportive of this research, because of my years of experience being a bartender, priest, pastor, psychologist and now an activist of the LGBTI people and having always been surrounded by the diversity of people in large groups, I can see how the research can be true.

With more and more people having come out in all professions, and from various backgrounds, plus the overwhelming abundance of allies coming out in support of LGBT people, there are fewer people in the closet, now days. This means it resonates quite quickly when someone is closeted about his or her sexual orientation or gender identity. Agreed this can be quite frightening and disturbing situation. However, instead of resisting publicly by regressing to irrational fears, name-calling and making ignorant statements, it is best to come to terms with one’s own individual sexual orientation and gender identity before facing the public.

The first place to begin this process is by getting educated about components of human sexuality. Much of the fear is about the unknown and the pressure of ill-formed social and religious norms that generate and perpetuate the same. Education is the key to easing the dissociated anxiety and fear that one experiences by being in the closet. However, the worst thing to do is get in front of an audience and throw a childish tantrum of resistance over the irrational fears. What becomes plainly obvious to the audience is the person who is against gay rights has no substantiated facts to base his or her objections on. It is at this point that the hidden truth is revealed about the public speaker or Politician or bishop or pope. Photo

The harsh ignorant antiLGBTI social and religious norms just keeps us separated from one another because of what we cannot accept in ourselves. Educating people about the complexities that make up human sexuality that each person is a unique mixture of components of LGBTI will, for one, increase the human potential in the world by leaps and bounds, finding cures of all kinds of diseases and much more.

The best thing to do for the well-being and safety of all children would be if people against Marriage Equality spent their money to academically study human sexuality, sexual orientation, gender identity and the bible. This is what children need the truth. People speaking out on such life and death issues should not speak out of ignorance and fear, thus spreading hatred and violence that indiscriminately is severely harmful to all children.


It must be remembered that the importance and meaning of marriage is more than procreation. Two people pledging their love to each other is not just for themselves, because that is not a marriage. By being in love, two become one and they are better equip to be the best for everyone in world their families, friends, co-workers and beyond. In this way all marriages are contributing to the procreation of children by their enriching the social environment that children will be born into. I think that love; true love like energy is never lost, a bit like Einstein, maybe. Photo

The truth will set us free - not ignorance and fear.

Hello Maine!!!

With all best wishes,

Fr. Marty Kurylowicz

PS. I must reveal that I have always had a loyal staff who would proof read and edit my writings and without them my writings can be quite atrocious, at times. I apologize for this. With proper funding this will be corrected. In the meantime I beg your forgiveness.

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