Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places - Looking For Love - HYSTERIA & DISSOCIATION - Of Public Opponents To “Gay Marriage” - Marriage Equality

The continuation of Sunday, May 10, 2009 - “Gay Marriage” Marriage Equality - Opponents Based on Facts or Personal Fears of Antigay Religious Norms - afraid to love and to be loved?

HYSTERIA

1 : a psychoneurosis marked by emotional excitability and disturbances of the psychic, sensory, vasomotor, and visceral functions

2 : behavior exhibiting overwhelming or unmanageable fear or emotional excess

It begs questioning where is all the fury of the opposition to “Gay Marriage” Marriage Equality coming from. Since, people hardly even understand heterosexuality, it is hard know how or where the opponents to “Gay Marriage” are getting their facts and information to feel justified to condemn homosexuals for their sexual behavior as immoral. To irrationally condemn innocent human beings is a grievous act against humanity. Photo - Crawling Feet

The "slippery slope" that the opponents to “Gay Marriage” Marriage Equality are suggesting is that incest, bestiality, and pedophilia, marriages are to follow once same sex human beings are allow to marry. There is no one in the entire planet supporting “Gay Marriage” Marriage Equality who has ever suggested or voiced such kinds marriages. The people who are the VERY FIRST to suggest such marriages are the Christian opponents to “Gay Marriage” Marriage Equality. Being the first to voice these kinds of marriages would have to be their own secret thoughts and or desires, which they feel so strongly about that they need outside restraints to protect them from their own selves. And again these opponents to “Gay Marriages” Marriage Equality have absolutely no consideration of the harmful effects that their hysteria or their strategic methods to secure their media programming air time has on very young children. Media Attack Marriage Equality 38,438 Photo

Since the majority of opponents to “Gay Marriage” Marriage Equality tend to be of the Christian persuasion it is necessary to help direct their attention to 3 passages from their Christian Bible. This is likely the surest way to peace of mind, support and help from fellow human beings, besides.

Luke 6:42
"Or how can you say to your brother [sister], 'Brother [sister], let me take out the speck that is in your eye,' when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother's [sister’s] eye.

More than 90% of the world population have to some degree a homosexual sexual orientation. There is less than 10% who are exclusively homosexual. The more than 80% of people have a homosexual orientation that is mixed with their heterosexual orientation. This may be quite troubling for most, but it would be wise for these people to look inward to understand their own fears and thoughts about their own sexuality. They will find that they are not alone. And they will find plenty of support to help them understand who they are and to begin to feel good about themselves better than they ever did before. A thorough education about the complexities of human sexuality is key to the above process.

1 Corinthians 13:11
When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man [an adult], I did away with childish things

This passage is suggesting to clearly recognize irrational childish thoughts about human sexuality and to acquire an educated approach than spreading irrational fears onto very young children, the way they were harmed as children growing up.

Mark 12:30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your mind, and with all your strength.

We are to love God with all our minds, which means our minds are meant to be put to work searching, studying and learning the totality of human sexuality, before speaking and harming innocent children. Christ made this for Christians the very first priority to protect children at all costs, even if it involves self introspection regarding human sexuality.

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May 10, 2009

Less Than 10% Of People Are The True Heterosexuals

For true heterosexuals because sexual orientation is established very early in life either just before birth or very soon after these true heterosexuals were never affected growing up by the influence of antigay social or religious norms, because their sexual orientation was totally heterosexual. This is not the same for the more than 90% of the people in the world who, according to the sexual orientation continuum, to some degree have a homosexual orientation. For these people have been to some degree if they were raised in social environments influenced by antigay social or religious norms and would have been harmed by them. Heuristically thinking these people depending on the degree of the homosexual orientation that is a part of their heterosexual orientation would likely be the degree that they are filled with self-hatred and or be projecting it out onto others, such as "gay marriage."

Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places - Looking For Love

Antigay GOP Senator, Larry Craig

Larry E. Craig

Pastor Ted Haggard - President of the National Association of Evangelicals, A male prostitute claimed on a Denver radio show that the two had had a three-year sexual relationship. CNN.com/US

Rep. Richard Curtis - resigned amid revelations he had sex with a man he met at an erotic video store while in Spokane on a GOP retreat.

Archbishop Weakland, 82, said he was probably the first bishop to come out of the closet voluntarily. He said he was doing so not to excuse his actions but to give an honest account of why it happened and to raise questions about the church’s teaching that homosexuality is “objectively disordered.” Read more Video Read more

Sexual orientation is an experiential part of human sexuality. This means that it is a part of who a person is and what a person has personally experienced growing up. The shame and disgrace that is wrongly associated with homosexuality is instilled at a very young age in children who grow up in social environments influenced by antigay social and religious norms. This is the powerful effects of social norms, people blindly follow them without thinking whether these norms are true or false, valid or not (video). Therefore, the traumatic affects growing up in such antigay social environments would affect a person's responses as an adult to be more negative towards homosexual issues, which are more then likely not based on any real facts current or otherwise and are irrationally based. Harry Stack Sullivan MD, Jack Drescher MD, Sidney H Phillips MD and others explain in detail the affects of growing up gay. Read more Perpetuation of Generational Violence to Children -- Who Grow Up to Be Gay FRIDAY, DECEMEBR 19, 2008

May 14, 2009

More Than 90% of People Have Some Degree Homosexual Orientation Read more

We are always to be protective of children no matter what that is our first and highest priority to maintain without end. There is no excuse for child sexual abuse, ever. But there is another form of child abuse that is allowed to continue unchecked. In addition, just as church authorities like the Vatican failed to protect children from sexual abuse, they are also responsible for this unchecked form of child abuse by maintaining ignorance about human sexuality. A thorough education, a working knowledge of human sexuality would help to diminish this kind of harm to children by parents and other adults. The men named above are not evil or bad people; because of their adult same sex encounters and relationships with other consenting adults. Nor should they be condemned as such. They are victims too of our socially and religiously approved ignorance and silence about issues of our human sexuality. To be raised in ignorance of human sexuality would likely cause a considerable amount of confusion and emotional stress often leading to regrettable complications in life, which would, otherwise not have happened.

Condemning others in ignorance without a thorough understanding of all the issues involved is "scapegoating" and criminal. Anyone in ignorance who would raise a finger against them need only to look no further than his or her self. This would be especially true for those who do not know these men personally. Because every word or thought of condemnation anyone would make against them very likely can be found first in the person who is doing the condemning. In psychology this is called projection.

Projection is a defense mechanism that involves taking our own unacceptable qualities or feelings and ascribing them to other people. For example, if you have a strong dislike for someone, you might instead believe that he or she does not like you. Projection functions to allow the expression of the desire or impulse, but in a way that the ego cannot recognize, therefore reducing anxiety. About.com psychology

Edith Bunker is not the only person who is frustrated and saddened about her lifetime lack of knowledge about human sexuality. She represents the greater majority of people who know every little about human sexuality. (video clip)

“When I was a young girl, I didn’t’ know what every young girl should know. Now, I‘m going to be an old lady, and I don’t know what every old lady should know.” Edith Bunker, “All in the Family” 9355

Human Tragedy Is Remaining Uneducated About

Human Sexuality

The human tragedy that is caused by remaining uneducated about human sexuality is the continuous harm associated with this ignorance is inflicted on very young children, and which is how this form of child abuse is, perpetuated generation after generation. For the most part, presently, heterosexual orientation is the only acceptable form of human sexuality. So, for us who are part of the more than 90% of people who have some degree of a homosexual orientation to those who are exclusively homosexual we grow up without any knowledge about our homosexual orientation which is a basic part of our human sexuality. The individual composition of a child’s human sexuality is integral to the child’s ability in forming secure attachments (Attachment Theory) in life with other human beings and this is greatly compromised in the early childhood years because of the illiteracy regarding human sexuality. Photo

This is harmful and even traumatic for a child to have to integrate aspects of his or her particular composition his or her sexuality, which do not conform by nature to the socially approved form of sexual expression. A child is left to integrate these non-conforming aspects of sexually with absolutely no knowledge, guidance or support of any kind. The only way a child learns is by how caretaking adults respond the child’s physical and emotional needs. A child will automatically tailor design any overt expressions of love to the acceptable comfort level of the caretakers in the child’s life. And if homosexual orientation is completely unacceptable, the child will suppress all those feelings to the detriment of the child’s own future well-being. If this same child should turn to God, as to how homosexual orientation is taught by the Catholic Church that comes from the Vatican, even further more long lasting harm is done to the child. It is criminal how children are not protected by the Vatican's negligent oversight regarding the known facts of human sexuality. Photo

Dissociation

Dissociation is a defense that a person uses to ease the tension and anxiety that arises when the person begins to feel the natural homosexual sexual impulses. The defense of dissociation might possibly explain some of these sexual encounters of these public figures in public restrooms. Harry Stack Sullivan, M.D. in his description of Dissociative Processes in his book Clinical Studies on Psychiatry gives some insight, as to how this phenomenon can happen not only to public figures but also to anyone. Dr. Sullivan considers his theory of dissociative processes in understanding how “an important system of the personality is effectively barred from any disturbing influence of personal awareness for a period of years and perhaps for a lifetime.” He explains how even a blatantly obvious issue of a person’s personality, which would be expected to be in that person’s self-awareness, however, it is successfully kept out. Read more Photo

This becomes quite problematic because a person’s sexual orientation is set very early in life and remains resistant to change throughout life. This is true even for the great majority of the more than 90% the human population have either a some mixture of both a homosexual and heterosexual orientations to exclusively homosexual orientation. These people are not heard from likely because they can legitimately feel somewhat secure in their heterosexual orientation even if it is only minimal percentage to their homosexual orientation. But not knowing what is happening within you, as a person can be unnerving and confusing. It would seem that this group of people if they were not raised in social environments influenced by antigay social and religious norms would not experienced the problematic complications as those who do. It is not by chance that some of the most outspoken people against “gay marriage” (marriage equality) have been raised in Christian denominations that condemn homosexuality. Their condemning thoughts about homosexuality are irrational not based on credible facts and remain resistant to change.

Why The Need For Crusaders?

People who feel so strongly, a crusader like zeal to save marriages (CA 2008 Prop. 8) defy laws of logic and are out of proportion with reality. Heuristically speaking it appears to be a kind of a mass hysteria that has a strong obsessive-compulsive quality, a defense mechanism vigilantly functioning continuously to keep out conscious awareness certain objective facts that a person perceives as unpleasant and dangerous to one’s self-image. I don’t believe that these people knowingly react in this fashion; in fact they would likely be quite unaware of their underling motivation that pressures them to empathically pursue this crusade to save marriages. The question becomes who are they protecting marriage from. photo Flower Girls

By Fr. Marty Kurylowicz, M.Div., M.S.

Property MS Kurylowicz, May 2009

Kids Are Being Hurt!!!

"Someday, maybe, there will exist a well-informed, well-considered, and yet fervent public conviction that the most deadly of all possible sins is the mutilation of a child's spirit." Erik Erikson

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Sexual orientation is less about sex and more about love, being one with another human being. Attachment Theory - LOVE & RELIGION