Monday, July 22, 2013

Gay Catholic Priest - Appealing his case – Fr. Marty Kurylowicz – to Pope Francis | Part 2 of 4

This posting was sent out as a US group mailing prior to posting it here on the Thalamus Center.

The letter will be posted in 4 parts.

Background links:
Gay Catholic Priest – Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - Charged by the Vatican for “Coming Out” March 1997 - For the Protection of Children – 15 years later – February 10, 2013 (Reposted) --- 4/17/13

Gay Children Pentecost - Fr. Marty Kurylowicz Appeals his Case “Protecting Gay Children 1997” to - Pope Francis - 2013 - 5/23/13

  Part 2 of 4 -  The letter continues:

Thalamus Center - Early Childhood Psychological Development Growing up Gay    
Fr. Marty Kurylowicz 

Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember 
that your brother or sister has something against you, 
leave your gift there in front of the altar.  
First go and be reconciled to them; 
then come and offer your gift. 
Matthew 5: 23-24

How can you (we) begin talking about restoring the dignity of human life within the global financial structures, of the major world corporations in respecting human beings more than profits, if the you (we) blatantly keep maintaining the Vatican's unsubstantiated dehumanizing antigay teachings that has become by Benedict XVI’s obsessive antigay crusade, a global fountain of self-perpetuation of violence? (Page 4,

Appealing - Bishop Walter Hurley’s Canonical Case against Fr. Marty Kurylowicz

In March 1997, I came out to my parishioners as being gay for the protection of children in their early childhood psychological development years growing up gay. I did this completely based on the factual evidence from science and the bible ( & & & & & & & In 2012, Bishop Walter Hurley’s (Diocese of Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA) canonical proceedings to have me removed from the priesthood, 15 years after I came out in 1997.  This is the case that I am appealing to you (further details are explained in the enclosed letters dated February 10, 2013, May 21, 2013, and July 2010) and can also be found online ( 

What is so inhumanly twisted is the fact that I am the one who has been severely injured, beginning 1997 and throughout the past 16 years and now I am being blamed for the severity of my own injuries that were inflicted on me by the office of Cardinal Ratzinger (Benedict XVI), the head of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (1981-2005). In 1997, two months after I came out, I was first ordered to be sent away to be reeducated on sexual orientation, which I explained in detail in “Part 1 of 4” of this letter (  Now, this  dehumanizing victimization is twisted around and I am being made to pay for it, all because I came out for the protection of children, which was based on authoritative clinical evidence. How heinous and reprehensible of a crime is this for the Vatican?
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Sociopathic Administration of the Vatican

This is an identifiable pattern of corruption specifically associated with Benedict XVI that is sociopathic in nature ( It is completely void of human empathy, absolutely no regard for destroying the lives of others, including children. It has a seamless quality of exceptional intelligence in the design and in the covert the execution of the dehumanizing tactics. If I was the only one claiming to have been victimized by Benedict XVI and his merry curia members it would be easier to dismiss my entire case, as fraudulent. However, that most unfortunately is not the case. Benedict XVI’s atrocities, similar to mine, are littered around the global for the past 30 years, in particular, though not limited to, the child sexual abuse cover-ups case. Your concern for and work with the poor is well documented over last few decades. It has been inspiring many to follow your example. You were instantly beloved and respected for your dedication to the poor, because at the age of 76 years old there is no way to fake such profound sincerity, if it was not true. In this age of instant global communication through the Internet it is nearly impossible to fabricate a lengthy history that is not true. 

It seems more than likely that the quick evolution of the Internet making instant global communication a reality and Benedict XVI’s arrogant autocratic rule choosing what aspects of science are relevant and which are not is what led to his downfall. Benedict XVI overestimated his authority and power to suppress all the emerging science on homosexuality and he greatly underestimated the force of science, which  in the end - like the magnitude and strength of a tsunami completely engulf and wiped him away.  

Despite Ratzinger’s invocation of the Second Vatican Council, he acknowledges here no earthly forms of authority arising outside of the Church. On the contrary, extraecclesial sources of knowledge are depicted here as posing a threat to the proper catechesis and pastoral service of the faithful: “The Church should be understood as more than a merely social entity, governed chiefly by psychological, sociological and political processes,” Ratzinger writes. “An anthropology which is dominated by the tentative conclusions of the human sciences could well undermine many pastoral initiatives, however well intentioned (p 155”

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Thirty years of endless documentation regarding the inhuman treatment of women, men, especially children who have been severely harmed - all leading a path directly to the office of Cardinal Ratzinger (Benedict XVI), the head of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (1981-2005) and at that point the path disappears into darkness. No one in the administrative staff (the curia) in Vatican is ever named, no one is ever held responsible the harm committed. Whoever is the responsible party including Ratzinger/Benedict XVI for these criminal acts - is all lost in an everlasting maze of obscurity. 

This type of administration behavior has that distinctive childish feel of the cookie jar being empty and no child in the room will admit to taking the cookies, therefore, no one is to blame, the cookies in the jar just vanished. For the past 30 years, the sole intent seems is the victimization of individuals in order to display dominance over them. Because over and over again, these incalculable victimizations of the Vatican are never investigated or resolved, justice is completely forgotten, as well as, truth and charity.  The Vatican without exception incorrectly spins the blame onto innocent people, even groups of people for the crimes they committed media, secular world, the sins in the Church, gay priests, etc. 

Pope Benedict condemns 'petty gossip' over child sexual abuse scandal – 3/28/10
Pope Benedict today risked inflaming opinion as he appeared to round on critics of the Catholic church over the widening sexual abuse scandal, saying he would not "be intimidated by ... petty gossip".

Abuse Scandal in Germany Edges Closer to Pope – 3/12/10
BERLIN — A widening child sexual abuse inquiry in Europe has landed at the doorstep of Pope Benedict XVI, as a senior church official acknowledged Friday that a German archdiocese made “serious mistakes” in handling an abuse case while the pope served as its archbishop.
The archdiocese said that a priest accused of molesting boys was given therapy in 1980 and later allowed to resume pastoral duties, before committing further abuses and being prosecuted. Pope Benedict, who at the time headed the Archdiocese of Munich and Freising, approved the priest’s transfer for therapy.  A subordinate took full responsibility for allowing the priest to later resume pastoral work, the archdiocese said in a statement…

Priest says he was pressurised into taking blame for pope – April 4, 2010

Priest says he was bullied into taking fall for Pope in abuse scandal – April 18, 2010
The church official who initially said it was his fault that a paedophile priest was given succour in Pope Benedict XVI’s former diocese has broken ranks, alleging he was bullied into taking responsibility to protect the pontiff.

Vatican Lashes Out At The New York Times Over Sex Abuse Coverage – 4/1/10
VATICAN CITY — Cardinals across Europe used their Holy Thursday sermons to defend Pope Benedict XVI from accusations he played a role in covering up sex abuse scandals, and an increasingly angry Vatican sought to deflect any criticism in the Western media.

Attacks on Pope over child abuse scandal are ‘akin to anti-Semitism’ 4/1/10
The Pope’s preacher today likened recent attacks on the pontiff over the Catholic sex abuse scandal to the “most shameful acts of anti-Semitism”.
...the Pope prepares to make a major address to the world for Easter Sunday, the Vatican is fighting back…

“What the Pope Knew” 
Gary Tuchman, September 25, 2010, CNN & CNN International
(Investigative documentary) video

Mea Maxima Culpa: Silence in the House of God
(Documentary) - By Justin Chang – 9/13/12
An arrogant, unfeeling institution - authority as absolute - canon law - hush up - excommunicate those who would bring the truth to light…
BENEDICT XVI is the Single Most Knowledgeable Figure on the Church's History of Sexual Abuse - done far too little for victims or to bring violators to justice
…Silence, as referenced by the title, is a key theme here, applying to not only the communication barrier the boys of St. John's found themselves up against, but also the Church's code of secrecy and disavowal of accountability. A thoroughly damning portrait emerges of an arrogant, unfeeling institution that sees its authority as absolute; that invokes canon law in order to hush up scandals and excommunicate those who would bring the truth to light; and that shows greater mercy toward its perpetrators than toward those who suffered at their hands. The documentary reserves its most withering attack for the Vatican itself (none of whose officials agreed to be interviewed), advancing an exhaustively detailed argument that Pope Benedict XVI is the single most knowledgeable figure on the Church's history of sexual abuse, yet has done far too little to reach out to victims or to bring violators to justice…
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Since, no one is ever indicted in the Vatican for these major criminal acts committed i.e. child sexual abuse cover-ups, etc., the proper and just restitution are never made to the victims, especially to children. There is absolutely no accountability or responsibility to right the wrong committed to Vatican’s victims. This is why canon law seems to be such farce for truth and justice, another susceptible point to be struck by lightning. Photo The victims are simply forgotten and ignored. The Vatican is acting like any global corporation indifferent and unconcerned by human lives they put at risk or destroy i.e. tobacco companies. 

These human beings, especially children victimized by the greed and power by the Vatican are then left to suffer the devastation to their lives caused by the criminal acts committed by person or persons unknown in the Vatican and no one cares, not a word is said to stop this tyrannical rule 

Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember 
that your brother or sister has something against you, 
leave your gift there in front of the altar.  
First go and be reconciled to them; 
then come and offer your gift. 
Matthew 5: 23-24

And yet, these people in the Vatican, those responsible in the curia, including Benedict XVI will celebrate mass over and over again without a care for the words of Christ. Is it any wonder why lightning struck the very top of St. Peter’s Basilica, February 11, 2013? The Vatican’s behavior in this regard in no way mirrors Christ’s love for all people, though the Vatican does more closely resembles the behavior of sociopaths. 

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Glibness and Superficial Charm
Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.
Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right."
Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.
Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.
Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises...
Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.
Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.   
Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily (
...Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
...Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admired
...Conventional appearance
...Goal of enslavement of their victim(s)
...Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's life
...Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love) 
Profile of the Sociopath (

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These criminal acts of victimization leading back to Ratzinger/Benedict XVI and Vatican’s curia - they all have the endless monotony of the same distinct seamless quality found in every tactic used covertly to gain control. After 30 years, it becomes as identifiable, as a person’s signature. With every covert tactic of Benedict XVI, they all have the unmistakable systematic precision of that seamless quality, always too perfectly executed, which goes against the laws of probability. It like someone always winning and never losing in Las Vegas at the gambling casinos for 30 straight years. Another, identifiable trait is that every covert tactic seems to be executed in the same way that money is laundered by making numerous transfers involving banks and or businesses to obscure and conceal the origins of the money
Photo ( & This may be the exclusive need for maintaining anonymity of the members of the Vatican's curia, because all crimes are forever lost in an everlasting maze of obscurity. The bureaucratic anonymity of the Vatican’s curia  was preferred in the Hunthausen’s case, an investigation instigated by Benedict XVI, then as Cardinal Ratzinger (pp 200, 211, 268, 269, -- & --

The only true sign of redemption coming to the Vatican that the wrongs done to countless human beings globally may be righted is your admission this June 2013 that indeed there is a stream of corruption in the Vatican’s curia Photo ( -- & --  --& --

1997 - I Stood up - Protection of Children 
Followed by 15 years - Endlessly Attacked by Benedict XVI 

Because I stood up for the protection of children, by “coming out,” I was the one wrongfully attacked, my life was threatened, my future was destroyed, and my physical health was been severely harmed by all the related stress (i.e. hospitalized 3 times in a year 2011 - 2012). It may be hard to believe, however, all the above seems to be intentionally orchestrated by the strategic design of these identifiable dehumanizing retaliation tactics belonging to Benedict XVI. From the research done on the Hunthausen’s case in the 1980s, this particular strategy is called  gamesmanship. “Gamesmanship involves fostering a state of upset or unrest in the other party as a means of reducing their resistance to yielding. Surprise is an important element in the strategy – surprise which results in the other party becoming flustered or feeling off balance or uncertain how to proceed (p 328 -” 

Hurley’s actions to remove me from the priesthood are criminal.  Hurley too has a distinct pattern of criminal corruption that is similar to the corruption of the Vatican’s curia. Again, even with Hurley, I am far from being the one and only priest he has attacked. Hurley will not be held accountable for the extensive damages to me and my reputation, neither by any USA civil laws or by the Vatican, in the same way that 1000s upon 1000s of victims of the child sexual abuse victims were unjustly mistreated, forgotten and no restitution is made  Photo
( Hurley will not be investigated for any of his crimes or indicted for any criminal activity. Hurley’s criminal activities are identical to the criminal corrupt activities of the Vatican's curia, today. Their covert criminal corruption are all based on a complete disrespect and a total lack of human empathy for people, even children ( & It is frightening just how closely they appear to fit the profile of sociopathic behavior, as stated above (

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Gamesmanship - Demonization - Casting Serious Aspersions - Benedict XVI’s Tactics to “ruffle the feathers” of the opposing party, 
thereby lowering the opponent’s resistance to yielding

I was 47 years old when I came out in 1997, I am now 63 years old and the unending stress due to this ongoing dehumanizing retaliation tactics by the Vatican for the past 16 years: withholding my regular monthly salary, demonization by casting serious aspersions against me has been covertly successful in attacking my credibility, thereby destroying my means to support myself, including causing me to loose everything I owned and leaving me in debt facing the endless stressful USA court proceedings that followed (names of these lawyers, the law firms, judges and documentation are enclosed). Photo

Even these court proceedings seem to be the orchestration of the strategy called Gamesmanship (p 329, as stated above - to deliberately stop me from writing about Benedict XVI on the Thalamus Center. I have continually made this - Important note: No disrespect meant to Pope Benedict XVI or the hierarchy, the one and only concern is the safety and well-being of children. Because of the lives of children globally are at stake that for anyone to remain silent about Benedict XVI’s participation in these crimes against humanity would be a most grievous sin, possibly against the Holy Spirit. This is about protecting children who are unable to protect themselves, this is the very essence of our faith. If, we are unfaithful in our duty to care for and to protect children, nothing else we do matters, at all. “…whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.” Matthew 18:6

It is interesting to note that the barrage of the recent court proceedings, scheduled for this July and Aug 2013, began in conjunction with Hurley’s canonical proceedings to have me remove from the priesthood. This particularly true after I mailed out and published on the Thalamus Center the post: Gay Catholic Priest – Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - Charged by the Vatican for “Coming Out” March 1997 - For the Protection of Children – 15 years later – February 10, 2013

Whether or not this barrage of USA civil and Vatican canonical court proceedings are the orchestration of the strategy of Gamesmanship, the unending stress has significantly harmed my physical health, as I have previously stated above led to my being hospitalized 3 times, in less than a year 

“Boffo Method” Character Assassinations - Vatican

And again, I am not the first person or the only one ever to be a victim of the Character Assassinations of Benedict XVI’s regime referred to as the "Boffo method,” because of the regularly high frequency rate that this tactic has been used. The Vatileaks of 2012 revealed only a tip the iceberg of the Vatican's curia use of illegal tactics to silence and remove, those labeled as the opposition by Benedict XVI and his curia Photo
(" Benedict XVI and his curia members, including their outside accomplices orchestrate their attack on the opposition, as they did to Boffo, in the same, now, identifiable seamless precision manner, beginning by spreading rumors that are damaging to the person’s reputation. Which is followed by tactics designed to destroy significant relationships this person has with others, as a means to isolate this person from all supportive friends and family members. This cruel deception and character assassination has been vividly portrayed in Shakespeare’s play “Much ado about nothing.” Benedict XVI and his handed picked curia and hierarchy members got away with these kinds of tactics for nearly 30 years, however, arrogance stemming from their firm belief in their own invincibility appears to be what led to their downfall (

This endless retaliation tactics from the Vatican is a form of structural violence to silence anyone from speaking about the science of sexual orientation that would profoundly and permanently alter church, economic and political structures ( Regrettably, there are ample precedents documenting this type of covert tactics by the Vatican’s curia beginning, as far back with Archbishop Hunthausen in the 1980s ( & ( & ( 

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Vatican Covert Lawlessness - an organization not self-correcting 

The Vatican’s administration staff (the curia, including Cardinal Ratzinger) has had no oversight or accountability to the point of being lawless for the past 30 years. In addition, the Vatican is a sovereign state and the respect governments have for the “separation of church and state,” which means that there are no outside civil laws anywhere in the world that has jurisdiction to enforce a proper investigation and, if necessary, to issue the corrective action against anyone in the Vatican who has harmed someone or others, including to see that restitution is made for the harm and damages caused ( The Vatican’s curia literally is above any law that can hold them accountable, they can get away with murder, even child sexual abuse cover-ups, e.g. Cardinal Law (

TIME - Ultimate Silencer of the Vatican’s Curia

Regarding my situation with the Vatican, the presumed hope is that over time people like me will just fade away and die - along with my reasons for coming out for the protection of children globally.  I then would be passed off, by the Vatican, as some disobedient and crazy old priest, a malcontent. Since, the Vatican’s curia is above all civil laws, the passage of time is on their side. This means that any criminal charges made against them will not hold for the reasons stated above.  This gives the Vatican’s curia all the time in the world to wait, months, even years for the public to forget, as the news media dies out, as well as, the victims who made the charges to die off, i.e. victims of child sexual abuse cover-ups. And so, this is how the corruption in the Vatican’s curia is able to continue and to flourish untouched. Besides, the guilty in the Vatican are allowed to remain anonymous, hiding behind the ubiquitous subjective social perception people have for the Vatican. It is a misplaced reverence and idolization - believing that the Vatican is the holiest place on earth, which overrides the conscious use of logic to make rational decisions. Unfortunately, I am sure that this type of situation no longer sounds that unreal or exceptional to you. You are and even more so since becoming Pope Francis, well aware of the kind of corruption that exists in the curia of the Vatican, though as you have stated that this not true of every member ( & ( & (  

End of Part 2 of 4 ---- To be continued

Gay Children Pentecost - Fr. Marty Kurylowicz Appeals his Case “Protecting Gay Children 1997” to - Pope Francis - 2013 - 5/23/13

(Reposted) --- Gay Catholic Priest – Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - Charged by the Vatican for “Coming Out” March 1997 - For the Protection of Children – 15 years later – February 10, 2013 
 - 4/17/13

(Added Links) --- Gay Catholic Priest – Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - Charged by the Vatican for “Coming Out” March 1997 - For the Protection of Children – 15 years later & President Obama’s letter of appreciation - 2012 – 5/1/13

(Original posting) --- Gay Catholic Priest Charged by the Vatican for “Coming Out” March 1997 - For the Protection of Children – 15 years later | Separation of Church and State - Does Not Protect Children - February 10, 2013 - 2/26/13

My Perspective on LGBT Rights Begins with Children 
Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - 5/10/13

Children Growing-up Gay & Vatican's Impact Harmful - GROUPTHINK 
Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - 2008
Krista Tippett - Speaking of Faith
American Public Media/Minnesota Public Radio

"Reparative Therapy" or "Conversion Therapy" – To Change Sexual Orientation - Lack Medical Justification, THREATEN HEALTH - Are ETHICALLY UNACCEPTABLE - 9/1/12

STRUCTURAL VIOLENCE and CHILDREN --- “Don’t Make Waves” --- Benedict XVI and Curia’s Child Sexual Abuse Cover-ups and Gay Obsession – 5/13/13

Gay Marriage – UK PM DAVID CAMERON - Lack of Love & Support of Children is ‘DAMAGE TO FAMILY’ i.e. BENEDICT XVI --- 30 years of GLOBAL CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE COVER-UPS | Gay Marriages Hurts No One!!! - 1/2/13

GAY MARRIAGE - 8 Part Series - providing Reliable Authoritative Data & Research – Challenges the Accuracy & Truthfulness of Benedict XVI & Hierarchy – Public Antigay Attacks & Tactics - 2012

Do I reject my gay brother? Bishop Gumbleton - Homophobia - "Always Our Children" PBS 1999

SEXUAL ORIENTATION is less about sex and more about LOVE, being one with another human being. Attachment Theory - - LOVE & RELIGION ---
Nothing in life is more precious than the intimate relationships we have with love ones. Healthy love relationships delight us give us confidence to take on challenges and support us in difficult times. Photo


AUSCHWITZ -- CHRISTMAS 2008 -- A flashback far more severe than in --- BROKEBACK MOUNTAIN 
December 26, 2008 – Fr. Marty Kurylowicz

Added References:

Conflict in the Catholic Hierarchy: A Study of Coping Strategies in the Hunthausen Affair,
with Preferential Attention to Discursive Strategies
by Timothy Peter Schilling 2003 

New York Gov. Cuomo & NYC Mayor Bloomberg Passing NY Gay Marriage Bill 2011

Protect Religious Freedom – but not Tyranny in Religion - June 20, 2011

The way to begin for us all, not only the NY State Senators, to protect Religious Freedom and not Tyranny in Religion is by obtaining a well-informed conscience.  We start by individually approaching and studying in (great detail because it involves the lives of children) from the best and the brightest (1) scripture scholars regarding the references related to homosexuality and (2) scientists in the field of study of human sexuality, in particular, but [not] limited to, the onset of sexual orientation.  The prerequisite to the formation of a well-informed conscience is making a thorough study of all sides of the issue from all available authoritative data and research, including opposing views. Then in this way we are better equipped to decide who and what needs government protection in regards to the gay marriage bill. This exhaustive procedure follows to the letter the Gospel quotation about the “plank” and the” speck.”

“How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye”. Luke 6:42

The “plank” for us is ignorance.If we satisfactorily resolve this ignorance, then together we will be able to see more clearly, whether or not, as NY State Senators (government officials) and as citizens we are colluding with the Catholic Hierarchy and are harming children, as was found to be the case in the Ireland Murphy Report.

…This piece of legislation the gay marriage bill is not like any other in that it involves the well-being of children, at its very root…

How I resolved this situation was through hours upon hours of continuous prayer. Afterwards, I came to the realization that my life had already been altered – changed forever. Because there was no way I could pretend I did not know what I knew, how severely children are harmed for life by the Vatican unsubstantiated antigay teachings and antigay social norms. I decided that I could not live with the regret knowing that I had a chance to make a profound difference for the better for others, most especially children and that I did nothing. My life would be nothing. I took the bungee jump and I came out to my parishioners. It definitely was not easy, but one thing that happened to me is - I gained a real sense of peace and well-being that has remained constant and unshaken.  The scripture passages that kept repeating over and over in my head were:

“For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” Matthew 16:25

“What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?” Luke 9:25 

“Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me;… Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me.” Matthew 10:36-38

“…whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.” Matthew 18:6

Even after Benedict XVI and his accomplices’ mistreatment and the serious harm they have caused me that sense of peace has never left me. It is remains rock solid. I believe that is the benefit of spending the time and energy of acquiring a well-informed conscience regarding sexual orientation.  Written by Fr. Marty Kurylowicz

Below - Letters concerning the canonical proceedings


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Below - a copy of President Obama's letter sent to Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - August 28, 2012



Below - Letter sent out by Fr. Marty Kurylowicz – informing of my situation and  seeking legal assistance - July 2010

Thalamus Center
Early Childhood Psychological Development Growing up Gay
Fr. Marty Kurylowicz Photo

July 2010

President of the United States
United States Vice-President
United States Department of State
United States Department of Justice
United States Department of Labor
United States Congress, Senators and Representatives
United States Supreme Court Justices
50 United States Governors
Civil Rights, Employment, Attorneys, Law Firms and Law Schools in USA
Journalists, News media Networks, Reporters and LGBT Organizations

Dear --- ----,

My name is Fr. Marty Kurylowicz, a Roman Catholic priest from the Diocese of Grand Rapids Michigan ordained June 16, 1979.

In March 1997, after attending a National Symposium of the New Ways Ministry that was held in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, I learned that children as young as 4 and 5 years of age know that they are different. This feeling "different" is only identified in their adult years as being gay. However, the harmful influence of antigay social and religious norms -- in particular, for Catholics, the Vatican’s unsubstantiated antigay teachings -- are severe and last throughout a child’s lifetime. The harmful effects are not isolated only to these children who grow up to be gay, but also affect their families, siblings, friends and anyone whom they might consider special in their lives. They are a prescribed societal sentence of implicit isolation, which place at risk of suicide so many innocent adolescents and young adults. They stifle an enormous amount of human potential in the world that otherwise could be put to use for finding cures for diseases, offering better ways of maintaining peace among people and improving the quality of life for everyone in the world.

After the New Ways Ministry National Symposium in March 1997, in good conscience I felt intensely morally obligated to "come out" as a gay Catholic priest to my parishioners at Holy Family Parish, Sparta, Michigan USA, to draw public attention to this implicit form of child abuse. This abuse is caused by the harmful influence of antigay social and religious norms, in particular, for Catholics, the Vatican’s unsubstantiated antigay teachings. My background study in this area is extensive, far beyond that of the average person. However, since I have come out, I have been subjected to overt as well as covert retaliation coming from the Vatican through the bishops of the Diocese of Grand Rapids. I was ordered to be sent away to be re-educated regarding sexual orientation, to subject myself to conversion or reparative therapy--not a lobotomy, but similar. I refused to consent to this inhuman treatment because of the obvious clinical research data. And because I did so, in retaliation I lost my regular priest salary for the past 13 years, my earned sabbatical terms and my status for any future assignments in theDiocese of Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA.

At the same time, an insider to the Vatican warned me that I could really get hurt severely by people in the Vatican. And even though this person was dead serious, I passed this warning off as being someone’s overactive imagination that was a bit bizarre. I thought, "After all, this is the USA, what do I have to fear?" However, this covert retaliation has been substantial. My car was repossessed in July 2009 and on June 26, 2010, I lost my home to foreclosure.

It seems no one wants to touch my case because it deals with the Catholic Church (although, in the last several months, the credibility of the Vatican has fallen considerably with regard to the decades of cover-ups of child sexual abuse cases). My case is about protecting children as young as 4 and 5 years of age. The 2009 amendment to the Federal Hate Crimes Law of 1969 does not seem to cover my type of situation, although it is a type of implicit hate crime. Unfortunately, there is not enough legislation out there to deal with most non-violent discrimination based on sexual orientation, nor enough legal precedent (especially with an entity like the church). It was mentioned to me that possibly Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress (IIED) and/or some employment law claims could apply.

It comes down to the fact that there are no US civil laws to protect me (a gay out Catholic priest) in my defense to protect children as young as 4 and 5 years of age. It seems clear that lawyers are often scared of taking on entities that seem more powerful than the legal system and/or cases with no real precedents. Not only do they have to worry about not winning after all the effort they put in (including hours of research, writing memos/briefs, etc--which is all hard when there's not much precedent), but they have to worry about—as I would think--being silenced and harming their careers. I can easily realize that there are risks going up against powerful entities. The religious element of my case makes it difficult for lawyers. Most lawyers would probably not be Catholic and don't really understand the Catholic Church, how it works or what they'd be getting themselves into. This is probably especially true for organizations more geared towards LGBT and other civil rights. A lot of LGBT people are not Catholic for the obvious reasons of mistreatment and my situation seems like it could be a complex intersection of various legal issues as well as religion--probably several things most LGBT/civil rights lawyers don't really know a lot about.

If I do say so myself, I think that my case could be a watershed that frees everyone, because the reason for my coming out was specifically based on the lifetime psychological harm caused to children as young as 4 and 5 years of age who grow up gay (LGBT). Evidence of such psychological harm has been heavily documented through accredited scientific research for the past several decades. Including scripture cannot be used to condemn homosexuality any more than it could be used to condemn Galileo. These are facts and cannot be disputed by intelligent people. It would be about children worldwide who grow up gay (LGBT), which takes the issue of sexual orientation out of the adult arena, making gay civil rights (gay marriage) a must--who wants to deny children their civil rights? I only know this from my experience with coming out in a Catholic parish. People calm down almost immediately when you talk about children growing up gay (LGBT)--in part, I think, because many people can identify with this fact.

I am asking for monetary compensation for the past 13 years for the financial hardship caused, the unnecessary setbacks in advancing my education, as a priest and the damage to my reputation making it impossible for me to support myself, leaving me destitute. If the Vatican wanted to remove me from the priesthood, they should have done it immediately after I came out in March 1997. But they did not do this, likely because they did not want to fight the global publicity that they were against gay priests – even if gay priests remained faithful to their vow of celibacy. Instead, they let me continue on for 8 years before removing my faculties for cerebrating mass publicly in any Catholic Church - mainly because I would be allowed to continue to preach if they did not remove me, June 2006. It has been rumored by a priest that and likely my bishop that I was given more than 5 years to get on my feet to leave the priesthood. But I had no intention of leaving the priesthood. They were making it impossible for me to stay in the priesthood, but I had no intention of leaving the priesthood. Why would I leave the priesthood? It would completely destroy - the reason why I risked my life, to come out as a gay Catholic priest, to protect children worldwide, to help stop the severe implicit form of child abuse caused to children as young as 4 and 5 years of age worldwide by the Vatican unsubstantiated antigay teachings (as stated in the 2nd paragraph above). The Vatican would then be allowed to continue unchallenged in harming children worldwide in much the same way as the Vatican has been allowed to continue for decades worldwide to cover-up of the child sexual abuse cases.

I am seeking a legal cause of action to pursue, monetary compensation for the retaliatory treatment I have received and financial assistance for starting the Thalamus Center. The Thalamus Center is an educational international interactive web site on human sexuality to combat the severe lifetime psychological harm caused by unsubstantiated antigay teachings, in particular that of the Vatican. It is ignorance of human sexuality that is so harmful to children and world peace. The Thalamus Center is being designed on a similar format as that of National Public Radio, NPR web site. The Thalamus Center is focused on two areas of human sexuality from science (biology, physiology, psychology, etc.) and religion (all religions, ancient sacred texts, etc.) – operating 7 days a week, reporting, interviewing, and referencing researchers, scholars, theologians, including archiving data, listing all LGBTQ&I resources and addressing related current news media issues. The Thalamus Center would be employing a full time staff of 9 professionals, including related support staff members.

Is there any help for me?

Fr. Marty Kurylowicz, M.Div., M.S.

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Canton, Michigan 48188

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Canton, Michigan 48188

Thalamus Center – Early Childhood Psychological Development 
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