Thursday, May 23, 2013

Gay Children Pentecost - Fr. Marty Kurylowicz Appeals his Case “Protecting Gay Children 1997” to - Pope Francis - 2013

This posting was sent out as a US group mailing prior to posting here on the Thalamus Center.

Letter Begins 

We cannot become starched Christians, too polite
who speak of theology calmly over tea. 
We have to become courageous Christians and 
seek out those (who need help most)
Pope Francis -  Pentecost 2013 Photo

May 21, 2013

Re: Appealing my case to Pope Francis

Dear Fr. Ron Richards,

Bishop Walter Hurley’s (Diocese of Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA) canonical proceedings to have me removed from the priesthood, 15 years after I came out in 1997, are beyond being questionably unethical to outright blatantly biased and malicious.  Sadly, this twisted use of canon law is not unique to my case, documentation will prove that this by far the norm rather than the exception (p 261, ). Hurley, as you know, not only chose and hired the judge, the prosecuting lawyer, including the defending lawyer, but also arbitrarily decided on the charges and the verdict. He then audaciously calls this event a trial! How is this any different from the sociopathic behavior of Chicago’s gangster of the 1920s, Al Capone, who was notorious for his domination of organized crime, which included having his thugs bribing police officers, judges, lawyers, juries, etc.? (

Hurley’s arranged and hired canonical proceedings are a travesty of justice and would be completely laughable, except for the fact of the devastating harm it causes not just to me, but more importantly to millions of children, which in the end affects everyone. This sham of a trial is meant to conceal the authoritative facts about sexual orientation and how gay children are harm, which was the sole reason why I felt morally obligated to “come out” in 1997 to help protect very young children (  This contrived pretense of a trial has been used often in the past, fine-tuning it into a sophisticated silencing tactic of last resort. The presumed hope in the end is that I will fade away like so many others before me, though not all, and thus concealing the authoritative facts  why I came out in 1997. I came out to draw public attention to the facts about the sexual orientation of children growing up gay and the harmful influence and violence caused by antigay social and religious norms, in particular, for Catholics, the Vatican’s unsubstantiated antigay teachings -- are severe and last throughout a child’s lifetime, especially disrupting their ability to form long and lasting relationships. The harmful effects are not isolated only to these children who grow up to be gay, but also affects their families, siblings, friends and anyone whom they might consider special in their lives. They are a prescribed societal sentence of implicit isolation, which place at risk of suicide so many innocent adolescents and young adults. They stifle an enormous amount of human potential in the world that otherwise could be put to use for finding cures for diseases, offering better ways of maintaining peace among people and improving the quality of life for everyone in the world. It is well known that children who grow to be gay and are not subjected to the harmful influence of antigay social and religious norms function as normally as anyone else.

But most especially Hurley’s deceitful and ruthless canonical trial proceedings were meant to conceal what happened to me after I came out, how I was threatened in secret with the directive from the Vatican, presuming from Ratzinger, to be sent away to be re-educated on the subject of sexual orientation - a form of reparative/conversion therapy for several months ( Hurley’s spent an inordinate amount time in preparation of this trial, extreme measures and expensive antics, i.e. hiring the best canon law judge in the USA to try my case that it clearly all seems unwarranted, especially charging me 15 years after I came out in 1997.  Just how threatening can I be? Even though at the time of my “coming out” in 1997, it was called “unprecedented” by the US Conference of Catholic Bishops - I am not the threat.  It is the science about early childhood growing up gay that is the ultimate threat to Vatican’s unsubstantiated antigay teachings demanding their immediate renouncement, i.e. the same as Galileo. It may also be Hurley’s feeble attempt to expunge Ratzinger’s (Benedict XVI) notorious record of criminal antigay tactics used against gay people i.e. but not limited to people in religious orders, clerics, personnel, etc. (

Hurley’s trial proceedings, however, fictitious has had a continual deteriorating effect on my health - having been hospitalized 3 times in the year due to the ongoing stress. I have explained, all this, in my letter dated February 10, 2013, which was the day before Benedict XVI announced his surprised resignation and 
lightning struck St. Peter’s Basilica (Photo). It has now been 16 long years since I came out 1997 because of the life-threatening harm to gay children and I have suffered through Hurley’s ongoing malicious tactics, the latest being this sham of a trial causing a considerable declined in my health and well-being( Therefore, due to my declining health related to Hurley’s corrupt tactics (i.e., ...gamesmanship...fostering a state of upset or unrest in the other party as a means of reducing their resistance to yielding... p. 328 in good conscience, it is time to bring all this into the light (1) to prevent the lifetime harm to children caused by antigay social and religious norms i.e. the Vatican’s unsubstantiated antigay teachings.  And now because of how I have been subjected to Hurley’s unethical canon law tactics, in good conscience I feel morally obligated (2) to bring this also to light and how those in the Church who were similarly mistreated trying to protect those most in need of help. As far back as the 1980s, theologians,  sisters, priests, bishops, etc. were involved in the education and research of sexual orientation in efforts to improve the understanding and acceptance of gay people, particularly during the beginning years of Aids crises in the USA.  This was a dark time in our recent history when gay people were considered the very least of the brethren, the fringe of society, who were in most need of our help.  And yet these courageous Christians were relentlessly subjected to the malicious tactics of canon law arbitrarily interpreted, enforced and made though all camouflaged by Ratzinger’s politeness strategy (i.e. Hunthausen’s case) to avoid any public display of conflict and a way of maintaining secrecy (p 261 - ).  However, today Pope Francis completely reversed this situation on Pentecost 2013:

"We cannot become starched Christians, too polite, who speak of theology calmly over tea. We have to become courageous Christians and seek out those (who need help most),’ he said” (  

“...the Holy Spirit would appear to create disorder in the Church, since he brings the diversity of charisms and gifts; yet all this, by his working, is a great source of wealth, for the Holy Spirit is the Spirit of unity, which does not mean uniformity, but which leads everything back to harmony. In the Church, it is the Holy Spirit who creates harmony...Only the Spirit can awaken diversity, plurality and multiplicity, while at the same time building unity. Here too, when we are the ones who try to create diversity and close ourselves up in what makes us different and other, we bring division. When we are the ones who want to build unity in accordance with our human plans, we end up creating uniformity, standardization...So let us ask ourselves: Am I open to the harmony of the Holy Spirit, overcoming every form of exclusivity? Do I let myself be guided by him, living in the Church and with the Church?...  ( ).”

Deep Harmony which Unites the Truths of Science with the Truths of Faith - John Paul II - 1979, November 10 - “...Galileo formulated important norms of an epistemological character, which are indispensable to reconcile Holy Scripture and science...” Photo 
Ratzinger/Benedict XVI - dismisses  the relevance of science from religion because religion transcends science - 1986 - PASTORAL CARE OF HOMOSEXUAL PERSONS “...The Church is thus in a position to learn from scientific discovery but also to transcend the horizons of science and to be confident that her more global vision does greater justice to the rich reality of the human person in his spiritual and physical dimensions, created by God and heir, by grace, to eternal life...” (this statement is completely - unsubstantiated  -  there is no authoritative data to back it up - thus renders it Ratzinger's personal bias antigay teachings, however, not Church teaching - Fr. MSK)

In 1990, Ratzinger/Benedict XVI, in a speech in Parma, Italy stated that  "At the time of Galileo the Church remained much more faithful to reason than Galileo himself. The process against Galileo was reasonable and just."  

In 1992, the investigation was completed and he made his public apology to Galileo that the Vatican was wrong and Galileo was right. “The Vatican's formal acknowledgement of an error, moreover, is a rarity in an institution built over centuries on the belief that the Church is the final arbiter in matters of faith… Pope John Paul II himself has said that the scientist was ‘imprudently opposed.’" -

Science can purify religion from error and superstition; Religion can purify science from idolatry and false absolutes. Each can draw the other into a wider world, a world in which both can flourish. John Paul II

Therefore, it is crucial to bring to light these 2 critical life-and-death situations as described above for the sake of the lives of children globally and for those in the Church so mistreated - who had the  courage to “take to the streets of the world’ and reach ‘the very outskirts of existence” to seek out those in most need of help, the very fringe of society, particularly at the beginning of the Aids crises in the USA - by immediately appealing my case directly to Pope Francis and avoiding sending it thorough the Curia. As I have been previously warned at a meeting on February 15, 2008 by Hurley that the Curia would be of no help to me in an appeal. Pope Francis is well aware the urgent need of reforming the Curia, which was made clear to him at the time of his election and afterwards he made clear it’s his key priority  ( ).


Fr. Marty Kurylowicz

Cc. Thalamus Center, USA group mailing 

 Do we have the courage to strike out along the new paths 
which God’s newness sets before us, 
or do we resist, barricaded in transient structures 
which have lost their capacity for 
openness to what is new?
Pope Francis  -  Pentecost 2013  Photo

End of Letter

Related links:

Gay Catholic Priest – Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - Charged by the Vatican for “Coming Out” March 1997 - For the Protection of Children – 15 years later & President Obama’s letter of appreciation - 2012 – 5/1/13

My Perspective on LGBT Rights Begins with Children 
Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - 5/10/13

‘Changed Everything’ - Gay-Rights Backers See Progress in Year Since President Obama Backed Gay Marriage - 5/9/13

Pope Francis Insists Church Must Help Poor, Not 'Speak Of Theology' - 5/18/13
"We cannot become starched Christians, too polite, who speak of theology calmly over tea. We have to become courageous Christians and seek out those (who need help most)," he said...

Children Growing-up Gay & Vatican's Impact Harmful - GROUPTHINK 
Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - 2008
Krista Tippett - Speaking of Faith
American Public Media/Minnesota Public Radio Photo

Pope warns Church against closing in on itself - 5/19/13
...The Church should ask itself daily whether it is resisting new challenges and remaining "barricaded in transient structures which have lost their capacity for openness to what is new," he said.
"Newness always makes us a bit fearful, because we feel more secure if we have everything under control," Francis said in his homily in front of a packed St. Peter's Square, adding that change can bring fulfillment...
...Francis warned of the threat of an institution which is "self-referential, closed in on herself," and spoke of the courage to "take to the streets of the world" and reach "the very outskirts of existence"...

"Reparative Therapy" or "Conversion Therapy" – To Change Sexual Orientation - Lack Medical Justification, THREATEN HEALTH - Are ETHICALLY UNACCEPTABLE - 9/1/12

Vatican’s Antigay Teachings are UNSUBSTANTIATED - life-threatening to very young children globally - Vatican needs to immediately RENOUNCE all their antigay teachings, because they are NOT based on truth -- Kids Are Being Hurt!!! - 9/7/12

STRUCTURAL VIOLENCE and CHILDREN --- “Don’t Make Waves” --- Benedict XVI and Curia’s Child Sexual Abuse Cover-ups and Gay Obsession – 5/13/13

Gay 1990s Studies - Pope John Paul II’s group of THEOLOGIANS and SCIENTISTS studying homosexuality – for better understanding and fuller acceptance – ended with Benedict XVI 2005

Pope Francis Caution on Gossip, starting Rumors - 5/18/13
“...Rumours are destructive in the Church, they are destructive ... It’s 'a little' like the spirit of Cain who killed his brother, his tongue; it kills his brother! On this road, we become Christians of good manners and bad habits."

Gay Marriage – UK PM DAVID CAMERON - Lack of Love & Support of Children is ‘DAMAGE TO FAMILY’ i.e. BENEDICT XVI --- 30 years of GLOBAL CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE COVER-UPS | Gay Marriages Hurts No One!!! - 1/2/13

Conflict in the Catholic Hierarchy: 
A Study of Coping Strategies in the Hunthausen Affair [1980s], 
with Preferential Attention to Discursive Strategies 
by Timothy Peter Schilling - 2003
(p 261)...All of the above-named powers to act are entrusted to the Holy See to be exercised in regard to particular churches. They are not powers which can be applied in the other direction: that is, a local bishop cannot conduct a visitation of Rome, appoint Roman officials, etc. Rome also applied legal power through the act of interpretation. Cardinal Ratzinger’s letter to Hunthausen with the visitation findings is perhaps the best example. Here Ratzinger explained to Hunthausen which specific teachings – some articulated in canon law, some in other Church documents -- needed binding application in the local church (in other words, which Church rules needed enforcing). Notably, some of the directives that Ratzinger called on Hunthausen to enforce were rules that his own congregation had established (cf. his references to the 1975 instruction Inter Insigniores and the 1976 Declaration on Sexual Ethics). Thus Ratzinger demonstrated the Holy See’s and his own congregation’s power to not only interpret and enforce Church guidelines, but also to make them in the first place...

God's Rottweiler' silenced many as head of doctrinal congregation - 2/27/13
  Although recent portrayals of Benedict XVI play on his white-haired grandfatherliness and his desire to fade into a quiet retirement of books and music, many Catholics with long memories have images in their minds of "God's Rottweiler."
During his time at the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (1981-2005), the office became one of the most controversial Vatican agencies. He decried secularization, liberation theology, radical feminism, homosexuality, religious pluralism and bioethics. Photo
Numerous Catholics found themselves in hot ecclesial water: Fr. Hans Küng; Jesuit Fr. Karl Rahner; Seattle Archbishop Raymond Hunthausen; Leonardo Boff; Fr. Charles Curran; Fr. Tissa Balasuriya; Jesuit Fr. Roger Haight; Fr. Matthew Fox; Loretto Sr. Jeannine Gramick and Salvatorian Fr. Robert Nugent; Dominican Fr. Gustavo Gutiérrez; and Jesuit Fr. Jacques Dupuis, among others...
...He criticized the overreach of bishops' conferences. At the time the American bishops issued their pastoral letter in 1983 on war and peace... 
...His first few years as head of the congregation dealt much with liberation theology, a movement centered on the poor and one that Ratzinger believed had ties to Marxism. In 1985, the Vatican silenced the Brazilian Boff, at the time a Franciscan priest and scholar of liberation theology...
...Besides liberation theology, writings on sexual ethics became a hot topic. In 1983, Hunthausen, a well-known progressive bishop, allowed a Mass for Dignity, a group for gay and lesbian Catholics, in his cathedral, which resulted in complaints to the doctrinal congregation...
Read complete report:

GAY MARRIAGE - 8 Part Series - providing Reliable Authoritative Data & Research – Challenges the Accuracy & Truthfulness of Benedict XVI & Hierarchy – Public Antigay Attacks & Tactics - 2012

Do I reject my gay brother? Bishop Gumbleton - Homophobia - "Always Our Children" PBS 1999

SEXUAL ORIENTATION is less about sex and more about LOVE, being one with another human being. Attachment Theory - - LOVE & RELIGION ---
Nothing in life is more precious than the intimate relationships we have with love ones. Healthy love relationships delight us give us confidence to take on challenges and support us in difficult times.

AUSCHWITZ -- CHRISTMAS 2008 -- A flashback far more severe than in --- BROKEBACK MOUNTAIN 
December 26, 2008 – Fr. Marty Kurylowicz

The Holy Spirit would appear to create disorder in the Church, 
since he brings the diversity of charisms and gifts; 
yet all this, by his working, is a great source of wealth, 
for the Holy Spirit is the Spirit of unity, 
which does not mean uniformity, 
but which leads everything back to harmony.
Pope  Francis - Pentecost - 2013 

Galileo facing the Roman Inquisition

Ecclesiastes 1:5 (New International Version)
5 The sun rises and the sun sets, and hurries back to where it rises.
Ecclesiastes 1:5 (New American Standard Bible)
Also, the sun rises and the sun sets; And hastening to its place it rises there again. 

1 Chronicles 16:30 (New International Version)
30 Tremble before him, all the earth!
The world is firmly established; it cannot be moved.
1 Chronicles 16:30 (New American Standard Bible)
30 Tremble before Him, all the earth; Indeed, the world is firmly established, it will not be moved

Psalm 93:1 (New International Version)
The LORD reigns, he is robed in majesty;
the LORD is robed in majesty
and is armed with strength. The world is firmly established; it cannot be moved.
Psalm 93:1 (New American Standard Bible)
1 The LORD reigns, He is clothed with majesty; The LORD has clothed and girded Himself with strength; Indeed, the world is firmly established, it will not be movedPhoto 

Psalm 96:10 (New International Version)
10 Say among the nations, "The LORD reigns."
The world is firmly established, it cannot be moved;
he will judge the peoples with equity.
Psalm 96:10 (New American Standard Bible)
10 Say among the nations, "The LORD reigns; Indeed, the world is firmly established, it will not be moved; He will judge the peoples with equity." Photo

Psalm 104:5 (New International Version)
5 He set the earth on its foundations; it can never be moved.
Psalm 104:5 (New American Standard Bible)
He established the earth upon its foundations, So that it will not totter forever and ever.

Injustice anywhere is a
threat to
Justice everywhere
Martin Luther King

The Nobel Peace Prize 1964
Martin Luther King Jr.

What you cannot do is accept injustice.
From Hitler – or anyone.
You must make the injustice visible
– be prepared to die like a
 soldier to do so.
Mahatma Gandhi

Kids Are Being Hurt!!!

“Someday, maybe, there will exist a well-informed, 
well considered and yet fervent public conviction that 
the most deadly of all 
possible sins 
is the mutilation of 
a child’s spirit.” 

…whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea. Matthew 18:6

Important note: No disrespect meant to Pope Benedict XVI or the hierarchy, the one and only concern is the safety and well-being of children.

Kids Are Being Hurt!!!

Parishioners supportive of gay priest
By Charley Honey,
The Grand Rapids Press - March 29, 1997

The Rev. Martin Kurylowicz got lots of hugs after Good Friday services at Sparta's Holy Family Catholic Church

"I was just filled with tears, there were so many hugs," said Kurylowicz, 47, following Friday's well-attended afternoon service. "It means more now, because they know the real me."

…He spoke up after attending a national conference on gay issues and the Catholic Church in early March. He was disturbed by accounts of homosexual children feeling isolated and parents feeling they did something wrong.

"I just couldn't walk away from it," he said. "I couldn't deny the pain."

He hopes his admission will raise awareness of violence against homosexuals and teen suicide, and help teach others that homosexuality is not a choice…
Read complete report: Archived - The Grand Rapids Press

Kurylowicz comes out
By Charles Honey
June 28, 1997, The Grand Rapids Press

…A spokeswoman for the U.S. Catholic Bishops Conference said Kurylowicz's coming out to his congregation, first in a newsletter then from the pulpit on Holy Thursday, is "unprecedented." "No one knows of anyone who has spoken of this from the pulpit," said Sister Mary Ann Walsh. Photo 

"It was one part [being gay] of myself that was just closed off," says the youthful-looking 47-year old. But the feelings persisted.

"Just like any heterosexual, those feelings are always there," explains Kurylowicz, who speaks with a nervous but friendly intensity. "You're shamed by it every time they come up. Then you (start) running away.

"You stop being who you are. You become something that you think others will find more acceptable." Kurylowicz became a workaholic…

But he thought the source of his growing depression was overwork. He went into counseling, where in time he opened up about his sexuality.

"Every time I faced it, the better I felt," he recalls. He smiles often, furrows his brow frequently as he describes those days. Eventually he attended support groups for gays, which helped him shed layers of shame and fear. "It was the first time I saw more positive images of (gay) people," he says.
"I thought, 'What was I running away from?' "

…Meanwhile, classes in psychology and his own studies convinced Kurylowicz that homosexual orientation is not chosen,…

Gradually, he felt the pressure of suppressing his feelings lift, giving him "a tremendous capacity to live."

A few years ago he told family and friends he was gay. But he didn't decide to tell his congregation until he attended a national conference in March sponsored by New Ways Ministry, an organization advocating more understanding of gays in the Catholic Church.

Kurylowicz says his decision was triggered by a report that homosexually oriented children as young as 4 realize they're different. He was moved by the pain those children feel. Photo 

"Then I realized they don't have a voice, and I'm the one [a  Catholic priest] that's supposed to say something," Kurylowicz says. "That's why I couldn't walk away from it."…
Read complete report: Archived - The Grand Rapids Press

Impending Rules on Gay Priests Create Catholic Divide - October 8, 2005 - …Rev. Martin Kurylowicz came out to his Sparta parish eight years ago, he said he had struggled for years with his homosexuality… the struggle would be made harder for many others if the Vatican issues new rules that reportedly would ban gays from becoming priests… “Kids as young as 4 or 5 know they're DIFFERENT," said Kurylowicz, a psychotherapist… "They grow up with this pervasive guilt, which sabotages their growth and motivation." The result is thousands of dollars in therapy to accept their natural orientation, he said, adding, "DOES THE VATICAN WANT TO TAKE THAT ON, LIKE THE TOBACCO INDUSTRY HAD TO TAKE ON FOR THE DAMAGE IT CAUSED CONSUMERS?”… - 10/8/05

Pope Francis Caution on Gossip, starting Rumors - 5/18/13
“...Rumours are destructive in the Church, they are destructive ... It’s 'a little' like the spirit of Cain who killed his brother, his tongue; it kills his brother! On this road, we become Christians of good manners and bad habits."

Vatican 'regrets' letter on bank chief's health – 6/12/12
…the publication of a letter from a psychotherapist detailing the mental health of the Vatican's recently ousted bank chief…and appeared aimed at further discrediting and humiliating the Vatican bank's ex-president, Ettore Gotti Tedeschi, once a top papal adviser…
…The ouster was a stunning show of Holy See power struggles playing out in real time and came amid one of the greatest scandals facing Pope Benedict XVI's seven-year papacy: the continuous leaks of confidential documents that have laid bare allegations of church corruption, intrigue and even homosexual relationships under Benedict's watch…

Vatican Banker Running Scared: Gotti Tedeschi Could Turn Whistle-Blower – 6/10/12
…a secret dossier that Gotti Tedeschi told friends he compiled “just in case something happens to me.” …reportedly contains irrefutable evidence…money laundering and tax-evasive practices…allegedly show financial transactions between the Vatican and a number of surprising characters, including politicians and known middlemen for mafia bosses… Three decades ago, another of “God’s bankers" was found hanging from a noose under Blackfriars Bridge in London.

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