Monday, March 19, 2012

GAY MARRIAGE – UNIDENTIFIED - Internalized Homophobia - Benedict XVI, Hierarchy & Blind Followers - GAY-BASHERS UK & US | UK Blair & Cameron Legalization of Gay Marriage | Kids Are Being Hurt!!! | PART 8


Introduction

The theme of this posting is about the importance of being true to oneself and the devastation that can occur when people refuse to face the truth that exists within them. “Pleasantville” (1998) is a movie that was written and directed by Gary Ross. This movie is a unique flashback to the 1950s sitcoms filmed for the most part in black and white. A time in the past believed to be a less troublesome time. The ingenious aspect of this movie is the way in which it is able to portray the personal struggles of each individual when challenged to face their own particular truth within themselves or to give into the pressure to conform to the social norms.  Gary Ross gives an excellent insightful commentary which can be found on the DVD to this movie explaining the complexities involved in the struggles and importance of being true to oneself. Photo

The next section explores the problems connected to what seems to be the inability for some people particularly for those well known public figures who adamantly speak out against homosexuality to face their own personal homosexual feelings within themselves. Many of these same people were later discovered to be in homosexual relationships or situations. This process is referred to as a dissociated state of mind from homosexual feelings, which is explained thoroughly in the book by Harry Stack Sullivan MD, Dissociative Processes, Clinical Studies on Psychiatry (1956). Photo There is no authoritative factual evidence or religious reason to be intolerant of homosexuals; therefore the intolerance comes from the pressure to conform to ignorant social norms, which appears to be in some way self-perpetuating. Researchers have found that homophobia appears to be strongly connected to homosexual arousal. The listing of the news media articles the follow are about antigay public figures found in homosexual situations, which suggests that homophobia is associated with homosexual arousal. This sections ends with a few quotes from the movie “Pleasantville” (1998) of the court scenes towards the end of the movie. But see that's just the point. It can't stop at once. Because it's in you. And you can't stop something that's inside you.”

In the following section is about honestly knowing oneself and then having the courage to face the overwhelming pressure, even threats to conform to ignorant social norms about homosexuals and then make a strong public stand for their rights as human beings regarding gay marriage. We have been slowly over the last few years witnessing a most unexpected but most deeply appreciated increase in this courageous outpouring on the part of some many of our politicians across our nation. This courageous momentum on the part of so many may have had an accumulating effect in helping to encourage on the many in NY who so ardently work towards the passing of the gay marriage bill in New York State 2011.  As the nation and the world watched the moment by moment struggle of this process – something occurred in what seems to be an astounding phenomenon of life imitating art related to the passing of the New York Gay Marriage Bill June 2011.  In the 1961 movie a “Pocketful of Miracles” at the end of the movie the Gov. of New York State and the Mayor of NYC both from different normally feuding political parties come together for no other reason than “to do something good for someone else,” which is to help Apple Annie with her daughter’s wedding. Gov. Andrew Cuomo and the Mayor of NYC Michael Bloomberg of different political parties came together and were dedicated in their efforts working to help make the NY Gay Marriage Bill a reality and they succeeded. Thank God! Photo This could be called a Capraesque moment which some people may count as irrelevant, but it is darn nice when it happens, which is not that often or so one might think. However, in the UK PM David Cameron is in earnest leading the legalization of gay marriage, only to be joined by Former UK PM Tony Blair. We hope and remain in continuous prayer for their success in this most profound endeavor for all of humanity.

The next section explains in part what happens when people do not face the truth about themselves. Over time if they are left unchallenged to face the truth of their false reality it then becomes their reality, which can have the most serious ramifications for other unsuspecting individuals. The 1941 movie “Arsenic and Old Lace” depicts this unfortunate life threatening phenomenon in a humorous way, which stars Cary Grant. However, without the humor this movie helps to describe the surreal world of Benedict XVI, his seeming oblivious disregard for the truth about human sexuality in particular homosexual orientation, the authoritative facts from both science and the bible. Benedict XVI disregard for the truth in this way actually does kill innocent people.  Photo

Finally the last section, I describe, in brief, the life long process of what was involved for me in my “coming out” and how I had to undo the decades of harm caused by my blind obedience to believing as true the Vatican’s unsubstantiated antigay teachings.  Lastly the focus is on the tremendous courage of Ricky Martin, as a super star to face the truth about his sexual orientation by his public “coming out.” Mr. Martin’s “coming out” has been a significant factor that has help so many adults and children globally. Photo


This posting is the eighth part of a larger one and was sent out as a US group mailing prior to posting here on the Thalamus Center.

Original 3/13/12 | Revised 3/19/12

Reviving Catholic Social Justice


Know thyself – Plato

This above all:
to thine own self be true, 
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
 William Shakespeare

Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and
pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
How can you say to your brother,
 'Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,'
 when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye?
You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then
 you will see clearly to remove
the speck from your brother's eye. - Luke 6:40-42

Self-knowledge
Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy
Self-knowledge’ is commonly used in philosophy to refer to knowledge of one's particular mental states, including one's beliefs, desires, and sensations. It is also sometimes used to refer to knowledge about a persisting self -- its ontological nature, identity conditions, or character traits. At least since Descartes, most philosophers have believed that self-knowledge is importantly different from knowledge of the world external to oneself, including others' thoughts… These accounts have important consequences for the scope of mental content, for mental ontology, and for personal identity.

Repressive nature unacknowledged in a person - is colorless and depending upon the kind and degree of the intensity of the repression determine how brutally obsessive the need to control everyone else will be.  Because it is an outward attempt to control one-self – in order to maintain our repression of whatever it is that frightens us. Mentally we can with great precision structure a dissociative state of existence from whatever it is inside of us that terrifies us. We are truly unaware that we have created a false reality.   However, this also creates for us a painful implicit state of isolation from any form of true love, because all secure relationships are based on truth and honesty. Our true nature will not be allowed to come out, so long as we can maintain our state of dissociation, however, when it does come out it will be disguised in some of the most bizarre, surreal and even dangerous ways. This is because it is like driving blind – we truly are not fully conscious of what we are doing.

Gary Ross’s Commentary on - Pleasantville (1998) DVD

Severe Dissociated State Of Mind From Homosexual Feelings

The question I asked myself was: what would it have been like for someone growing up gay during the Nazi Persecution of Homosexuals 1933 -1945?
What would be the severity of the psychological effects on a boy who grew up to be gay in Germany during the time of Hitler’s NAZI PERSECUTION OF HOMOSEXUALS 1933 -1945? During the Nazi regime, homosexuals were publicly defamed and falsely accused for the major social problems of that time, which was done to incite massive public hatred and hostility directed against homosexuals. Homosexuals were used for medical experiments, physically mutilated, brutally tortured and exterminated.
Would this child, as an adult, in a severe dissociated state of mind from his own homosexual feelings (Harry Stack Sullivan MD, Dissociative Processes, Clinical Studies on Psychiatry (1956)), unconsciously perpetuate the terrifying horror of the insensitivity he had experienced growing up? If he found himself in a position of authority would he recreate the same social and political environment of violence and terror for homosexuals that he experienced, as a child who grew up to be gay, during the NAZI PERSECUTION OF HOMOSEXUALS? Photo

Is Homophobia Associated With Homosexual Arousal? 

Dissociated State Of Mind From Homosexual Feelings
Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places Photo

Anti-Gay Marriage - Rev. TED HAGGARD - "Evangelical Leader Denies Accusation of Paying Former Gay Prostitute for Sex" – Nov. 3, 2006
…Haggard may not be a household name, but he is a major figure in evangelicalism in the country, with a direct line to the White House.
His prominence is now threatened by Jones, who says he is a former gay prostitute and alleges that Haggard paid him for sex at regular intervals over a three-year period….
…He said he came forward when he learned Haggard and his church were backing an anti-gay marriage initiative on the ballot Tuesday in Colorado.
"I had to expose the hypocrisy. He is in the position of influence of millions of followers, and he's preaching against gay marriage," Jones said. "But behind everybody's back doing what he's preached against."
HAGGARD Pronounced ‘Completely Heterosexual – Feb. 7, 2007
Forced by a gay sex scandal to resign as president of the National Association of Evangelicals, the Rev. Ted Haggard now feels that after three weeks of intensive counseling, he is “completely heterosexual,” says an overseer of the megachurch Mr. Haggard once led…
Dr. Jack Drescher, a New York psychiatrist who is an expert on issues of gender and sexuality, said that while it was people’s prerogative to identify their sexual orientation as they wanted, the notion of being able to change that orientation was “not consistent with clinical presentations, but totally consistent with theological belief.”
GEORGE REKERS, Anti-Gay Activist, Caught With Male Escort 'Rentboy' – May 25, 2011
Social Conservative Minister GEORGE REKERS Denies he is Gay After Newspaper Prints Story on his Travel With Young Man he Allegedly met on ‘Rentboy’ - May 5, 2011
GEORGE REKERS, Antigay -  ‘Rentboy’ and the Law – May 19, 2010
Christian right leader GEORGE REKERS takes vacation with "rent boy" – May 6, 2010
George Rekers and "Lucien" at Miami International Airport. Photo
            The pictures on the Rentboy.com profile show a shirtless young man with delicate features, guileless eyes, and sun-kissed, hairless skin. The profile touts his "smooth, sweet, tight ass" and "perfectly built 8 inch cock (uncut)" and explains he is "sensual," "wild," and "up for anything" — as long you ask first. And as long as you pay.
            George Alan Rekers, of North Miami — the callboy's client and, as it happens, one of America's most prominent anti-gay activists…
            For decades, George Alan Rekers has been a general in the culture wars, though his work has often been behind the scenes. In 1983, he and James Dobson, America's best-known homophobe, formed the Family Research Council, a D.C.-based, rabidly Christian, and vehemently anti-gay lobbying group that has become a standard-bearer of the nation's extreme right wing. Its annual Values Summit is considered a litmus test for Republican presidential hopefuls, and Sean Hannity and Ann Coulter have spoken there. (The Family Research Council would not comment about Rekers's Euro-trip.)
            He has also influenced American government, serving in advisory roles with Congress, the White House, and the Department of Health and Human Services and testifying as a state's witness in favor of Florida's gay adoption ban. A former research fellow at Harvard University and a distinguished professor of neuropsychiatry at the University of South Carolina, Rekers has published papers and books by the hundreds, with titles like Who Am I? Lord and Growing Up Straight: What Families Should Know About Homosexuality
GEORGE REKERS  - Scandal Stirs Legal Questions in Anti-Gay Cases – May 18, 2010
…For years, George A. Rekers has held himself out as an expert witness in court on homosexuality, arguing in cases concerning same-sex marriage and gay adoption that gay men and lesbians lead parlous lives and raise troubled children…
MARK FOLEY’s Secret Life – October 15, 2006
Mark Foley's explicit e-mails could bring down the GOP
In uptight, colorless Washington, Congressman Mark Foley, 52, Republican of Florida, was a bon vivant…He also hid, or tried to hide, his interest in younger men--much younger men, including the teenagers who can be seen scurrying around Capitol Hill toting the mail and taking in, at least in theory, a firsthand civics lesson…
MARK FOLEY congressional page incident
Newsweek's June 7, 2010 issue's BACK STORY listed Foley, among others, as prominent conservative politician who had a record of anti-gay legislation and was later caught in a gay sex scandal.
1998 - Republican Rep. MARK FOLEY’s remarks on Clinton-Lewinsky scandal -
"It's vile. It's more sad than anything else, to see someone with such potential throw it all down the drain because of a sexual addiction."
2006 - Mark Foley was brought down by an addiction to sexually explicit text messages to male congressional pages.
LARRY CRAIG - Idaho Republican Senator - Arrested For Lewd Conduct In The Men's Restroom  - June 11, 2007
In 1999 Craig became sharply critical of U.S. President Bill Clinton for the Monica Lewinsky scandal. Speaking on NBC's Meet The Press, Craig told Tim Russert: "The American people already know that Bill Clinton is a bad boy - a naughty boy. I'm going to speak out for the citizens of my state, who in the majority think that Bill Clinton is probably even a nasty, bad, naughty boy." Photo
LARRY CRAIG's anti-gay hypocrisy – Aug. 30, 2007
            If Larry Craig were held to the standard of sexual conduct he imposes on the U.S. armed forces, he'd be out of his job.
            Fourteen years ago, in his first term as a Republican senator from Idaho, Craig helped to enact the military's "don't ask, don't tell" policy. It stipulates:
A member of the armed forces shall be separated from the armed forces under regulations prescribed by the Secretary of Defense if one or more of the following findings is made and approved in accordance with procedures set forth in such regulations: (1) That the member has engaged in, attempted to engage in, or solicited another to engage in a homosexual act or acts unless there are further findings … that the member has demonstrated that—(A) such conduct is a departure from the member's usual and customary behavior; (B) such conduct, under all the circumstances, is unlikely to recur; … [and] the member does not have a propensity or intent to engage in homosexual acts.
            …According to the report filed by the officer who arrested Craig at the Minneapolis airport in June, Craig stood outside the officer's bathroom stall for two minutes, repeatedly looked at the officer "through the crack in the door," sat in the stall next to the officer, tapped his foot, and gradually "moved his right foot so that it touched the side of my left foot … within my stall area." Craig proceeded to "swipe his hand under the stall divider for a few seconds" three times, palm up, using the hand farthest from that side of Craig's stall. Most of these gestures, the officer explained, were known pickup signals in a room known (and hence under surveillance for) public sex. When the officer took Craig outside and told him so, Craig claimed he had been reaching down with his hand to retrieve a piece of paper from the floor. The officer wrote that no such paper had been on the floor…
            …I feel sorry for Craig. I hate the idea of cops going into bathrooms and busting people for coded gestures of interest. I'd rather live, let live, and tell the guy waving his hand under the stall to buzz off. But that's not the standard Craig applies to others. Any gay soldier, sailor, airman, or Marine who admitted to doing what Craig has admitted would, at a minimum, lose his job for violating DADT. In fact, many have been kicked out for less.
            Most people think "don't ask, don't tell" means that if you don't announce that you're gay, you can keep your job. It should mean that. But in practice, if you don't tell, the military can—and often does—investigate and interrogate you until you're forced to tell.
Why men like LARRY CRAIG continue to court danger in public places. Sept. 3, 2007
…safe to assume that many tearoom traders have a need, which they only imperfectly understand, to get caught. And this may be truest of all of those who are armored with "the breastplate of righteousness." Next time you hear some particularly moralizing speech, set your watch. You won't have to wait long before the man who made it is found… 
TEAROOM TRADE
Rev. GRANT STORMS Arrested: Anti-Gay Christian Pastor Charged Over Public Masturbation – March 1, 2011
TROY KING Alabama Republican Attorney General - made homophobic statements, including calling gays the “downfall of society,” is the subject of rumors that his wife recently discovered him having sex with another man. – John McCain campaign scrubbed its website - July 11, 2008
JAMES E. WEST, Former Mayor Spokane, Wash & former Republican state Senate majority leader - opposed gay-rights bills but was recalled from office over an Internet gay sex scandal… July 6, 2006
RICHARD CURTIS - Republican state legislator Wash - had sex with a man he met at an erotic video store while in Spokane on a GOP retreat – October 31, 2007
RICHARD CURTIS  - Republican state legislator  - voted in 2005 and 2006 against a bill that granted civil rights protections to gays and lesbians, and in 2007 voted against a bill that created domestic partnerships for same-sex couples…
BRUCE BARCLAY - Republican commissioner of Cumberland County, PA - Sept. 16, 2010 - secretly taping men having sex at his home… and promoting prostitution, male escorts

B16: Save the rainforest–Stop gay marriage! - December 22, 2008
Pope: Gay marriage threatens humanity’s future - January 9, 2012
Pope denounces gay marriage lobby to US bishops, 3/9/12
Vatican Calling For Male Prostitutes
“Naturam expellas furca, tamen usque recurret.”
(Though you drive Nature out with a pitchfork, she will still find her way back.)
Vatican hit by gay sex scandal - March 4, 2010 
The Vatican was today rocked by a sex scandal reaching into Pope Benedict's household after a chorister was sacked for allegedly procuring male prostitutes for a papal gentleman-in-waiting... 
Benedict's ceremonial ushers, as well as a member of the Vatican choir, were involved in a gay prostitution ring – March 6, 2010

Pope: Condoms OK -- for male prostitutes – November 20, 2010


Internalized Homophobia
American Psychoanalytic Foundation Public Forum 
Ralph Roughton, M.D. 1999
…When we speak of internalized homophobia, we refer to the shame, denigration and anger turned inward onto the self of the homosexual individual either as a re-internalization or from the absorption of homophobic attitudes in the environment and then identifying with the hated and feared object. The primary emotion is shame, but a whole gamut of inhibitions, loss of self esteem, depression and self-destructive behavior often follow…

But see that's just the point. It can't stop at once.
Because it's in you. And you can't stop something that's
inside you

Pleasantville (1998) movie script - by Gary Ross.


(dialogue from the courtroom scenes at the end of the movie)
                                    DAVID
            You don't have a right to do this.
[There is a murmur in the courtroom. David continues.]

                                    DAVID
            I mean, I know you want it to stay "Pleasant" around
            here, but, there are so many things that are so much
            better: like Silly... or Sexy... or Dangerous... or
            Wild... or Brief... And every one of those things is in
            you all the time if you just have the guts to look for
            them.
                                    BOB
            Okay -- that's enough!

                                    DAVID
            I thought I was allowed to defend myself.

                                    BOB
            You're not allowed to lie.

                                    DAVID
            I'm not lying.
                        (pointing…)
            See those faces back there. They're no different than
            you are. They just happened to see something inside them
            that you don't want to look at…

                                    BOB
            THIS BEHAVIOR WILL STOP AT ONCE.

                                    DAVID
            But see that's just the point. It can't stop at once.
            Because it's in you. And you can't stop something that's
            inside you…



Pleasantville (1998) movie script - by Gary Ross

SEXUAL ORIENTATION is less about sex and more about Love, being one with another human being.  Attachment Theory - LOVE & RELIGION  - by Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - April 30, 2009
Nothing in life is more precious than the intimate relationships we have with love ones. Healthy love relationships delight us give us confidence to take on challenges and support us in difficult times…


"He was part of my dream of course
but then I was part of his dream too."
Lewis Carroll "Through the looking glass"   

Pope denounces gay marriage lobby to US bishops, 3/9/12
Pope Benedict XVI waded deep into U.S. campaign politics Friday, urging visiting U.S. bishops to beef up their teaching about the evils of premarital sex and cohabitation, and denouncing what he called the “powerful’’ gay marriage lobby in America…Benedict said there was an urgent need for Catholics in America to discover the value of chastity — an essential element of Christian teaching that he said had been subject to unjust “ridicule.’’

B16, Hierarchy & Blind Followers –
 Need Stop Unjust “Ridicule” Value of HONESTY & CHARITY
 Child Sexual Abuse Cover-ups & God’s Gift of Homosexuality

The Psychology of the Closeted Individual and Coming Out – 2007 
by Jack Drescher, M.D.
Many LGB individuals report developmental histories with difficulty acknowledging their homosexuality, either to themselves or to others. This is because, starting in childhood, LGB individuals are often subjected to antihomosexual attitudes, not only from strangers, but also from their own families and communities (Drescher, Stein and Byne, 2005). The childhood need to hide may persist into adulthood, leading many LGB individuals to conceal important aspects of themselves. There are a range of homosexual identities that describe an individual’s awareness and acceptance of same-sex attractions. Closeted individuals cannot acknowledge homoerotic feelings, attractions and fantasies to themselves. They cannot or will not integrate homosexuality into their public personae and these feelings must be dissociated out of conscious awareness.
Some gay men, before coming out, were either gay-baiters or gay-bashers. To maintain a psychological distance from their own homoerotic feelings, they also exhibit dissociative tendencies. Attacking those perceived to be gay can serve several functions. One penile plethysmography study indicated that men with strong antihomosexual beliefs actually had significant homosexual arousal patterns (Adams, 1996). Interpersonally, strong antihomosexual feelings may represent an effort to control perceptions of a gay-basher’s own sexual identity. If they attack gay people, others will not think of them as gay…
UNIDENTIFIED - Internalized Homophobia – Devastating, and Horrific Consequences On Innocent Children - PERPETUATING GENERATIONS HATRED & VIOLENCE - 2010
Pope’s child porn 'normal' claim sparks outrage among victims 
December 21, 2010

Blair takes on the Pope by backing gay marriage, Mar.11, 2012
Tony Blair has defied the Pope by making clear he "strongly supports" plans for gay marriage, The Independent on Sunday has learnt. The former prime minister, a Catholic since 2007, backs proposals by David Cameron for a new law allowing homosexuals to marry.
A consultation on gay marriage to be launched later this month has met fierce opposition from senior figures in the Roman Catholic Church and the Church of England.
On Friday, Pope Benedict XVI urged Catholics to block the "powerful political and cultural currents seeking to alter the legal definition of marriage".

New York Gov. Cuomo & NYC Mayor Bloomberg
Passing NY Gay Marriage Bill  2011

WELL-INFORMED CONSCIENCE
Protect Religious Freedom – but not Tyranny in Religion - June 20, 2011
The way to begin for us all, not only the NY State Senators, to protect Religious Freedom and not Tyranny in Religion is by obtaining a well-informed conscience.  We start by individually approaching and studying in (great detail because it involves the lives of children) from the best and the brightest (1) scripture scholars regarding the references related to homosexuality and (2) scientists in the field of study of human sexuality, in particular, but [not] limited to, the onset of sexual orientation.  The prerequisite to the formation of a well-informed conscience is making a thorough study of all sides of the issue from all available authoritative data and research, including opposing views. Then in this way we are better equipped to decide who and what needs government protection in regards to the gay marriage bill. This exhaustive procedure follows to the letter the Gospel quotation about the “plank” and the” speck.”
“How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye”. Luke 6:42
The “plank” for us is ignorance.  If we satisfactorily resolve this ignorance, then together we will be able to see more clearly, whether or not, as NY State Senators (government officials) and as citizens we are colluding with the Catholic Hierarchy and are harming children, as was found to be the case in the Ireland Murphy Report.
…This piece of legislation the gay marriage bill is not like any other in that it involves the well-being of children, at its very root…
How I resolved this situation was through hours upon hours of continuous prayer. Afterwards, I came to the realization that my life had already been altered – changed forever. Because there was no way I could pretend I did not know what I knew, how severely children are harmed for life by the unsubstantiated antigay teachings and antigay social norms. I decided that I could not live with the regret knowing that I had a chance to make a profound difference for the better for others, most especially children and that I did nothing. My life would be nothing. I took the bungee jump and I came out to my parishioners. It definitely was not easy, but one thing that happened to me is - I gained a real sense of peace and well-being that has remained constant and unshaken.  The scripture passages that kept repeating over and over in my head were:
“For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” Matthew 16:25
“What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?” Luke 9:25 
“Anyone who loves their FATHER or mother more than me is not worthy of me;… Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me.” Matthew 10:36-38
“…whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.” Matthew 18:6
Even after Benedict XVI and his accomplices’ mistreatment of me and the serious harm they have caused me that sense of peace has never left me. It is remains rock solid. I believe that is the benefit of spending the time and energy of acquiring a well-informed conscience regarding sexual orientation.  
Written by Fr. Marty Kurylowicz


The above is a Capraesque moment a Pocketful of Miracles of the early 1960’s long before Benedict XVI/Ratzinger when such things may have been possible. However, for the past 30 years life with Benedict XVI has been anything but Capraesque.  It has been an era more like the Godfather films of the 1970’s with the Benedict XVI’s multitude of global child sexual abuse cover-ups, his ominous fears of being prosecuted for his decades of fierce discrimination against gays - a most startling likeness  to Hitler and his “above the law” Gestapo secret police treatment of people he deemed less than human.  Due to the days and length of the NY State Republican Senators “secret” meetings regarding the passing of the “Gay Marriage Bill” many disparaging thought begin to arise such as, maybe how much is the Vatican  involved and if so, should it be so? It fits too closely to Benedict XVI’s covert modus operandi that of a typical bully who only attacks those who cannot defend themselves.  
Benedict XVI’s covered- up crimes of discrimination against gays is likely to be equal in number to his child sexual abuse cover-ups globally.  Benedict XVI’s crimes are not that difficult to realize when one studies Church History of past popes, killing people, starting wars for profit, etc.  John Paul II in 2000, made an unprecedented public apology for these grievous past sins of popes and promise never again.  And those of us who have not studied our past Church History are witnessing history repeating itself.  My foolish “Capraesque” hope is that someone in the NY State Republican Senate will have the intelligence and courage to break through this darkness and help stop this violence against children. But my faith remains firmly established in the words of Christ –
What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs. Luke 12:3 
Ny gay marriage

Reviving - Catholic Social Justice

Social Justice issues can never be given a back seat – in the Catholic Church or any religion for that matter.  The moment that that happens the back to the Stone Age we go – barbaric times – beat them up – knock them down – just get our way.  And if we take and honest look around our world today – I wonder what some of the true Catholic social justice activists of the 1960s and 1970s would have to said about our economy, women rights, foreign involvements, health care, child care and of course the Vatican activities.  More to the point what would Christ say about the above?
SOCIAL JUSTICE CATHOLICS

GAY MARRIAGE – Homosexuality for Catholics or anyone? "WHY IT IS A 'GIFT' FROM GOD!!!" And when we accept and value this gift from God – we are able to experience love like never before, and we are able to love. | PART 7

E.J. Dionne: Santorum, Huntsman and the future of conservatism – January 5, 2012
…Santorum is a Catholic of a certain kind, and it’s the most important thing about him. He’s on one side of a long-standing debate in the church about how to build a decent society. Social justice Catholics (and I’m one of those) represent an older American tradition. We agree with more conservative Catholics on the family as an essential social building block, but see capitalism as in need of regulation and correction if it is to serve the common good, and protect the family itself. Many of us — and here we do depart from the church’s official teaching — see gay marriage not as undermining fidelity and commitment but as encouraging them…

I love being Catholic, just as much I believe as many people feel about their own particular religion. However, Catholic in the sense of what it is like for every religion when it is at its best. At the very best of every religion, I believe, we are likely united as one.  However, Benedict XVI “has made worse just about everything that is wrong with the Roman Catholic Church…” Hans Kung

Pope John Paul II in March 2000 humbled all Catholics publically apologizing for the centuries of sins of Catholic Church around the world. Pope says sorry for sins of church - Sweeping apology for attacks on Jews, women and minorities defies theologians' warnings - From the altar of St Peter's Basilica in Rome he led Catholicism into unchartered territory by seeking forgiveness for sins committed against Jews, heretics, women, Gypsies and native peoples… Photo

Papal Personalities

Benedict XVI and as Cardinal Ratzinger has spent over 30 years at the very top of the Roman Catholic Church, inside the Vatican.  Pope John Paul II brought Cardinal Ratzinger and placed him in the second highest position in the Vatican early in the 1980s. Cardinal Ratzinger/Benedict XVI has been for 30 years in power – without much, if any checks and balances, which is a dangerous situation for anyone. A person can get away with murder and worst. I have a bias that comes from having two different professional careers. A person’s personality is rather stable throughout a person’s lifetime. Our likes and dislikes may vary some. Hopefully - as we grow and learn more through the years - we grow in wisdom, but our personalities will only blossom becoming more of what is already there.

B16’s Secrecy

Now, this is my double bias perspective, which together is my speculation. I do not think that Pope John Paul II was aware of all that Cardinal Ratzinger was doing. I can be completely wrong however, Ratzinger close association with the decades of all the child sexual abuse cover-ups and the ordered secrecy, which is stronger today than ever leads me to believe the above.
Pope [Benedict XVI} 'obstructed' sex abuse inquiry - April 24, 2005
Pope Benedict XVI faced claims last night he had 'obstructed justice' after it emerged he issued an order ensuring the church's investigations into child sex abuse claims be carried out in secret.
The order was made in a confidential letter, obtained by The Observer, which was sent to every Catholic bishop in May 2001.
It asserted the church's right to hold its inquiries behind closed doors and keep the evidence confidential for up to 10 years after the victims reached adulthood. The letter was signed by Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, who was elected as John Paul II's successor last week.

Honesty vs. Dishonesty

Benedict XVI is noted for his guarded secrecy. In what appears to be extreme contrast, John Paul II went against major theologians and insisted on making a public apology for the sins of the Roman Catholic Church, March 2000. This contrast between the two men - is a matter of honesty and dishonesty. The one place on earth Catholic or not we would expect is that the Vatican to be the pillar of truth.   I would even as a priest would expect that the Vatican would have connections to the best and the brightest experts and professionals from very field of study in the world. When I came out to my parish, March 1997, publically admitted to being gay. I was not ordered to leave the priesthood. Because, John Paul II was the Pope and he did not share Cardinal Ratzinger/now Benedict XVI obsessive hatred for gay priests. And as long as John Paul II remained Pope, I was allowed to return to post graduate studies at the University of Michigan and later at Madonna University, while on the weekends helping with the celebration of Masses throughout the metropolitan Detroit.

Benedict XVI - ARSENIC AND OLD LACE”

However, behind the scenes - behind close doors and a delay of 3 months after I came out in March 1997, Cardinal Ratzinger/Benedict XVI issued his directives for me.  He canceled my two earned sabbaticals. I was told that my request to study psychology at the University of Michigan was denied. Emphatically, I was told the Church did not need psychologists and that the Church needed more canon lawyers and liturgists. At this point, this situation turned surreal, bizarre, weird, and freakish, like being in a dream. In a flash, it was made perfectly clear that Ratzinger is completely oblivious to the present basic urgent needs and sufferings that human beings are experiencing. This was the exact opposite of what the overwhelming majority people in the world know and believe what it means to Christian - in any denomination.


Instead I was told that I was to be sent away to be reeducated about sexual orientation. (This is the same procedure that Hitler used to handle those who opposed him, they were sent away to be reeducated. This was the beginning of the idea for the concentration camps - ultimately used to exterminate Jewish adults and children.) I was shocked and stunned by this statement – it was as if time stood and I could see my whole life flash before me – like a near death experience.  The mere thought of returning to what my life was like before I “came out” felt like being re-traumatized all over again. Thought of being ordered to reliving all that needless suffering of a lifetime spent in endless excruciating agony of a suffocating existence caused by my blind obedience to the Vatican unsubstantiated antigay teaching – was criminally inhuman treatment.  It meant a return to a maintaining a constant vigilance of any thought,  word or deed that has even a hint of an intimate connection to another human being.  This is inhuman – but as a child you are not aware of the significance of the term “inhuman.”   It was like telling someone who had survived living in a concentration camp that they are going to be sent back. 
Sexual Conversion Therapies
Ethical Issues
There is no accepted body of research data to support the position that these treatments are effective
I was 47 years old at the time – I spent a lifetime in prayer, psychotherapy and study to ultimately discover (a Galileo experience) that homosexual orientation is a normal, natural and vital part of human development essential for sustaining life and the well-being of the individual, the same as heterosexual orientation.  What was also alarming about this directive from Cardinal Ratzinger/ Benedict XVI – I was told this after successfully coming to my parish, as recorded in the news media.  The parishioners did not leave.  At that time in the parish, we had two major collections, the regular weekly collection for the general operation of the parish and the building collection to pay back our loan for the new building construction and the renovation/updating of existing facilities – neither collection suffered after I came out.  In addition, I held sex education classes for the parishioners – 3 times a week for 7 weeks and every class was filled.  Catholic parishioners wanted to learn all about human sexuality.
As Ratzinger’s long list of bizarre directives were being conveyed to me behind close doors – I kept thinking no one is going to believe what was being told to me. It is just too surreal - simply unbelievable. I so urgently wanted many other people around me to hear what I was hearing, because I could not believe my ears. I kept thinking where is the news media when you need them.

I felt like Cary Grant in the 1941 movie “ARSENIC AND OLD LACE.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arsenic_and_Old_Lace_(film)  When Cary Grant playing the part of Mortimer Brewster first finds the body in the window seat, he is almost completely disorientated. It is not until he tries to confront his aunts about the dead body in the window seat and finds that they are not shocked, quite the reverse, they sincerely believe that poisoning lonely old men was Christian charity. It is at this point that Cary Grant is completely disorientated, because his aunts are totally unaware of seriousness of the crime of murder that it is morally wrong.  His aunts are extremely disproportionately more upset about being accused of fibbing than about committing 12 murders and burying them in locks that their nephew Theodore Roosevelt believes he is digging for the Panama Canal in their cellar.

Pope John Paul II Dies - Honesty & Benevolence
turns to
Benedict XVI Covert Ruthless & Deceitful Attacks
Secrecy is Prime

After Cardinal Ratzinger became Pope Benedict XVI April 2005 – the benevolent climate that had existed towards gay priests while Pope John Paul II was alive had drastically turned ruthless and deceitful completely hidden from the public view.
New Rules Affirm  - Pope Benedict's Stance Against Gays - October 8, 2005
ROME, Oct. 8 -- In the first five months of Pope Benedict XVI's reign, stern opposition to homosexuality in and outside the Roman Catholic Church has quickly become a prime public message for the Vatican…
Impending rules on gay priests create Catholic divide - October 8, 2005
When the Rev. Martin Kurylowicz came out to his Sparta parish eight years ago, he said he had struggled for years with his homosexuality.
The Catholic priest says the struggle would be made harder for many others if the Vatican issues new rules that reportedly would ban gays from becoming priests… 
…"I sizzled when I read it," said Kurylowicz, 55. "It's very hurtful, is what it is. In this day and age, there's no reason for it. It sends a message that there's something wrong with gays."
Kurylowicz said he spoke out then to raise awareness of violence against gays and teach others homosexuality is not a choice but an inborn trait. Church leaders still don't understand that and contribute to gays' poor self-esteem, he said… 
…"Kids as young as 4 or 5 know they're different," said Kurylowicz, a psychotherapist… "They grow up with this pervasive guilt, which sabotages their growth and motivation." The result is thousands of dollars in therapy to accept their natural orientation, he said, adding, "Does the Vatican want to take that on, like the tobacco industry had to take on for the damage it caused consumers? "…
Catholics Coming Out - Fr. Marty Kurylowicz - 1997
Given Benedict XVI close association with the 30 some years of covering up the child sexual abuse cases – it seems that his lifelong trademark has always been to be ruthless and deceitful in the strictest secrecy. As John Paul II was becoming more incapacitated and confined to bed, Cardinal Ratzinger/Benedict XVI began in 2003 to aggressively attack gay priests. However, he still had to be careful that this kind of violence against gays did reach the bedside to John Paul II. Another, unconscionable trademark of Cardinal Ratzinger/Benedict XVI is to arrange behind the scenes ways to aggressively attack not only a gay priest’s reputation but anyone who opposed him – to render the person powerless, losing employment and the support of friends even family members.  The same as he did as Benedict XVI attacking a Catholic editor in Rome who write article related to Italy’s PM sexual activities. A consultant for the Vatican's high court attacked New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo because he supported gay marriage.
Commentary: what lies BEHIND VATICAN'S DENIAL of involvement in Boffo affair? - February 11, 2010 
What lies behind the highly unusual denial this week by Pope Benedict XVI that the Vatican was involved in the smearing of Dino Boffo, a Catholic editor critical of the private life of Silvio Berlusconi, the Italian Prime Minister, as a "renowned homosexual"?
Vatican intrigue hits new level with LEAK DENIAL - February 9, 2010 
Italian Catholic scandal draws in Pope Benedict – February 9, 2010
VATICAN CITY —A scandal in Italy's Catholic Church has morphed into a tale of VATICAN INTRIGUE complete with FORGED DOCUMENTS, reports of dueling cardinals and a papal admonishment Tuesday to put the matter to rest… 
NY Gov.- Cuomo Says He’ll Push for Vote to Legalize Same-Sex Marriage - February 9, 2011
New York Governor ATTACKED BY VATICAN ADVISER for taking Communion as his glamorous home life with girlfriend Sandra Lee is revealed - 24th February 2011
Catholic Professor Says Cuomo Shouldn't Get Communion - February 23, 2011
ALBANY, N.Y. — A consultant for the Vatican's high court says he believes New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo shouldn't receive the Catholic sacrament of Holy Communion because he is not married to his live-in girlfriend, Food Network star Sandra Lee…
Edward Peters, who's also a conservative Catholic blogger and seminary professor in Detroit [Michigan], called the living arrangement "public concubinage" and said that Cuomo taking Communion would be sacrilegious…

Benedict XVI’s Cover-ups

A Lie Never Ends – It Tends To Snowball

Benedict XVI has an overwhelming number of factual pieces of evidence and allegations that all point to his secret ruthless and deceitful attacks against people who threaten or oppose him.  However, take note that Pope John Paul II has had no such factual evidence or allegation made against his character. John Paul II did not have to hired professional PR strategists to help improve his public image because his honest and open personality made almost an instant connection with crowds of people, young and old from all around the world far beyond any arranged PR manipulation of the news media. The same is not true for Benedict XVI.                 Benedict XVI cost for his professional PR manipulation of the news media must be astronomical. This is especially true because of Benedict XVI continuous refusal to publically and honestly address his part in the Child Sexual Abuse Cover-ups, which is endless until the truth is made known. In addition, continuous major major expense must be involved in attempting to shift the blame off Benedict XVI, though totally against all global authoritative studies and research, by obsessively trying to demonize homosexuality as the cause and by extension gay marriage. A lie never ends – it tends to snowball.

How the Catholic Church could end its sex scandal – March 26, 2010
The Vatican has dealt with the sexual abuse scandals as other institutions would. It should be relying on its Christian values.
…It has worried about its image. It has worried about itself as an institution and about protecting its leaders from public scandal. In so doing, it has made millions of Catholics righteously furious and aggravated every one of its problems.
So instead of going away, the scandal keeps coming back - lately, in a form that seems to challenge Pope Benedict XVI himself. It was sickening to read Thursday's New York Times story reporting that Vatican officials "did not defrock a priest who molested as many as 200 deaf boys, even though several American bishops repeatedly warned them that failure to act on the matter could embarrass the church."
In Germany, the pope's home country, more than 300 victims have come forward in recent weeks, and Chancellor Angela Merkel, whose party has Catholic roots, called the scandal "a major challenge for our society."
The church needs to show it understands the flaws of its own internal culture by examining its own conscience, its own practices, its own reflexes when faced with challenge. As the church rightly teaches, acknowledging the true nature of our sin is the one and only path to redemption and forgiveness…

United Nations Accusations - Vatican’s COVER-UPS Child Sexual Abuse
“…a complete failure to take responsibility” - September 22, 2009
Pope Benedict XVI /Ratzinger Engineered Cover-up of Child Sex Abuse – Hans Kung - April 4, 2010
...the revelation of the clerical abuse of thousands of children and adolescents, first in the United States, then in Ireland and now in Germany and other countries. And to make matters worse, the handling of these cases has given rise to an unprecedented leadership crisis and a collapse of trust in church leadership.
There is no denying the fact that the worldwide system of covering up cases of sexual crimes committed by clerics was engineered by the Roman Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith under [Benedict XVI] Cardinal Ratzinger (1981-2005). During the reign of Pope John Paul II, that congregation had already taken charge of all such cases under oath of strictest silence. Ratzinger himself, on May 18th, 2001, sent a solemn document to all the bishops dealing with severe crimes ( “epistula de delictis gravioribus” ), in which cases of abuse were sealed under the “secretum pontificium” , the violation of which could entail grave ecclesiastical penalties...
Church in worst credibility crisis since Reformation – Irish Times
Child Sexual Abuse DECREASED As GAY PRIESTS Began Serving The Church – Research Found - 2011
…Since the scandal broke, conservatives in the church have blamed gay priests for perpetrating the abuse, while liberals have argued that the all-male, celibate culture of the priesthood was the cause. This report will satisfy neither flank.
The report notes that homosexual men began entering the seminaries “in noticeable numbers” from the late 1970s through the 1980s. By the time this cohort entered the priesthood, in the mid-1980s, the reports of sexual abuse of minors by priests began to drop and then to level off. If anything, the report says, the abuse decreased as more gay priests began serving the church.
The John Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York City
Ireland - KILLING THE SECRECY EXPOSING - Benedict XVI & Roman Curia - Response to Child Sexual Abuse Cover-ups - 2011
Child Sexual Abuse – Benedict XVI - Cover-Ups
The INEPTITUDE of BISHOPS Over Many Decades and
Their DELIBERATE COVER-UP of Crimes Against Children - 2011
…The situation in other countries where the crisis has surfaced, with its familiar patterns of abuse, secrecy and misuse of authority, indicates a larger systemic problem, the source of which is much deeper than the sexual revolution of the 1960s. While the John Jay study may shed some light, within limits, on individuals and their aberrant behavior, the real scandal never began or ended with sexual sin. The scandal that still angers and frustrates Catholics involves the ineptitude of bishops over many decades and their deliberate cover-up of crimes against children. The John Jay report is an important first step in understanding the scandal. However, until the hierarchy gets serious about facing down the real demons of its own clerical culture, the crisis festers, largely unresolved.


Is Homophobia Associated With Homosexual Arousal? By Henry E. Adams, Lester W. Wright, Jr., and Bethany A. Lohr, University of Georgia – 1996
Journal of Abnormal Psychology, American Psychological Association, Inc.
1996, Vol. 105, No. 3,440—445
B16: Save the rainforest–Stop gay marriage! - December 22, 2008
Benedict XVI says legislation safeguarding rights of same-sex couples violates 'natural law' – February 1, 2010


Vatican Calling For Male Prostitutes
“Naturam expellas furca, tamen usque recurret.”
(Though you drive Nature out with a pitchfork, she will still find her way back.)
The Vatican was today rocked by a sex scandal reaching into Pope Benedict's household after a chorister was sacked for allegedly procuring male prostitutes for a papal gentleman-in-waiting... 


Pope: Gay marriage threatens humanity’s future - January 9, 2012
Archbishop Dolan…strongly opposed gay marriage…“a violation of what we consider the natural law that’s embedded in every man and woman.” June 17, 2011 


Naturalistic fallacy and Homosexuality
Against Nature
James Boyle 1998
Excerpt:
The fight against the naturalistic fallacy was supposed to be over. One of the great achievements of modern philosophy was to undermine arguments from Nature. No longer would educated people argue that homosexuality, powered flight, and the education of women were unnatural. Naturalistic arguments use the multiple meanings of the word "nature" to solder a dubious claim about biology or Divine Plan to a negative value judgement, and then to make the whole thing look like a mere statement of fact. Philosophy would allow us to see the weakness of the join, to pry the argument apart, identify its constituent claims and dispose of them seriatim. In particular, philosophical scepticism would expose the anthropomorphism of arguments that attributed knowledge and insight to a world of brute facts and organic processes…
…Many people who would roll their eyes if told that homosexuality was unnatural and thus should be prohibited would find the same basic argument much more convincing if made about nuclear power, genetic engineering or high intensity farming. Naturalistic argument is alive and well…
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James Boyle is a professor of Law at American University, Washington College of Law and a visiting professor at Yale Law School.


Who Can Mock This Church? – April 5, 2010
Maybe the Catholic Church should be turned upside down.
Jesus wasn’t known for pontificating from palaces, covering up scandals, or issuing Paleolithic edicts on social issues. Does anyone think he would have protected clergymen who raped children?
Yet if the top of the church has strayed from its roots, much of its base is still deeply inspiring. I came here to impoverished southern Sudan to write about Sudanese problems, not the Catholic Church’s. Yet once again, I am awed that so many of the selfless people serving the world’s neediest are lowly nuns and priests — notable not for the grandeur of their vestments but for the grandness of their compassion…
…The Vatican believes that this newspaper and other news organizations have been unfair and overzealous in excavating the church’s cover-ups of child rape. I see the opposite. No organization has done more to elevate the moral stature of the Catholic Church in the United States than The Boston Globe. Its groundbreaking 2002 coverage of abuse by priests led to reforms and by most accounts a significant reduction in abuse. Catholic kids are safer today not because of the cardinals’ leadership, but because of The Boston Globe’s…
...There’s Father Mario Falconi, an Italian priest who refused to leave Rwanda during the genocide and bravely saved 3,000 people from being massacred. There’s Father Mario Benedetti, a 72-year-old Italian priest based in Congo who fled with his congregation when their town was attacked by a brutal militia. Now Father Mario lives side by side with his Congolese congregants in the squalor of a refugee camp in southern Sudan, struggling to get schooling for their children.
It’s because of brave souls like these that I honor the Catholic Church. I understand why many Americans disdain a church whose leaders are linked to cover-ups and antediluvian stances on women, gays and condoms — but the Catholic Church is far larger than the Vatican…


What Can Catholics do Today to – Help Protect all Children?

GAY MARRIAGE – Catholic Truth ≠ Benedict XVI & hierarchy’s SPIN - Unsubstantiated Antigay Teachings & Disregard for Children – Silent Catholics COLLUDING w/B16 – Continually Hurting Kids!!! | One – Letter & Many – Copies | Anne Rice | PART 6



GAY MARRIAGE – HOMOSEXUALITY For Catholics or Anyone? "WHY IT IS A 'GIFT' FROM GOD!!!"  And when we accept and value this gift from God – we are able to experience love like never before, and we are able to love | PART 7

Fr. Marty Kurylowicz Photo
COMING OUT and NEW BEGINNINGS

May 21, 2009 – updated 3/12/12

The very first person I was able to “come out” to was a Trappist Abbot, who I visited yearly, some 3000 miles away from where I lived. I came out to him just before I was to enter the monastery. The Abbot was shocked that I thought being "gay" was something bad, “Who said you were Bad!” He said, "Why it is a 'gift' from God!!!" Then I was in shock. It was not the response I had expected. I was completely confused. Disappointed at first, however, "life" began there for me but ever so faintly but it was definite I was "different." The Abbot told me ever so kindly and reassuringly that I must, first, go back out into the world and come to appreciate all the blessings that come with being "gay."

At that time, I could not even imagine being "gay" in any positive light. But I trusted the Abbot's wisdom, his sincerity, his genuine empathy for another human being and his care for me. It was not until several years later and my fifth therapist that I began to normalize to the truth about myself that I was indeed “gay.” It was at Affirmations, Ferndale, MI that I really noticed my life beginning. There were several more years of acclimating that I had to go through before I realized that I was at peace with myself and the anger I wore like a coat had greatly dissipated. All that energy trapped in suppressing the fact I was “gay” for years and years was turned loose. I went back to school now in by mid 40's. I was simultaneously enrolled taking classes at both Aquinas College, Grand Rapids, MI and the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, MI at the same time, all while being a full time pastor in Grand Rapids, MI (Holy Family Parish, Sparta, MI) and teaching High School and 3rd grade religion classes. Without all that anger eating me up inside I came "alive" for the first time in my life! I felt like that song "But Alive" from the Broadway musical “Applause Applause.


A L I V E

Initially this led to a host of new problems being out with my priest-friends. Instead of bursts of anger, now in my mid 40's and sober I'd have these uncontrollable bursts of energy to breakout into dancing and swinging from street lamp posts all up and down Yonge St. in Toronto, singing "I'm alive!!! I'm alive!!! --- Surprisingly, I even had some spontaneous crowd participation shouting back "And we're glad you are!" Even that I could hear for the very first time in my life and believe they meant it, because I was acting so obnoxiously ridiculous in public. Without all that anger blocking my hearing… Photo
I could actually hear love,
for the first in my life and
appreciate the feeling of affection, and
not feel the immediate need to run away.

The Real
S A I N T S

All the while I was feeling so much better I constantly felt so indebted to the people who came out before me, for their parents and friends who supported them, because they all paved the way for people like me to come out in much safer and better environments then they did. Their gift to us was to experience what it truly feels like to be alive and to be able to love and be loved without fear and without guilt. They were for me the real saints; I was so astonished and admired their courage and love for humanity. It was all quite unbelievable that the world was filled with such wonderful people, risking their lives for people, people they do not even know. Now, this was quite a significant realization to have, being a priest. Maybe I was thinking that they were truly the real priesthood making the world a better place for everyone, simply because they were willing to be honest about themselves, and that truth meant everything and was valued. And this is evil?!? I don’t think so! They were more like Christ out for everyone. Now that is what it means to be gay! No anger!!!!!!! And everyone is important!!!!!!!!! Just a slice of heaven!!!!!!!!!
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For Those Who Are Against Marriage Equality
Methinks They Doth Protest Too Much

I think that this is true of everyone more than most people know. So, when I run into people who are so angry about Marriage Equality I have an immediate flashback to the time that I had all that anger. I then have to ask where is all their anger coming from. “Me thinks They Doth Protest Too Much.” And who is doing the most protesting? It sure does help to see clearly when you remove the plank in your own eye, first. It does not make any sense for some people, clergy, hierarchy and pontiffs to be so so angry about Marriage Equality, because nobody is interested in marrying them. It almost has the makings of a real classic musical comedy Broadway Show if it wasn't my life and so tragic the abuse they are causing to innocent children around the world, youth suicides and killings of adults. In the end it is just about "being mean" for the sake of "being mean", being as cruel as anyone can be to another human being. I guarantee they will find absolutely no peace of mind. Because they have never known it in their lives, otherwise they could not be so inhuman to fellow human beings, especially to children worldwide. Their lives will remain filled with only anger and depression and with not even a hint of love. This is likely because no one considered their feelings when they were children growing up and being part of the 90% of those who have some degree of homosexual orientation mixed with their heterosexual orientation. Maybe this is why Jesus said to his real and true followers the rule about the plank and speck.

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's [sister's] eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother [sister], 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's [sister's] eye." Matt 7:3-5

We are more alike than we are different from one another. The way to check this out is by checking out who is angry about Marriage Equality. If they are absolutely 100% heterosexual what and how would they know anything about homosexuality? Where are they getting their information? Many questions to be answered if their anger will allow them to.

I found that the true heterosexuals are clueless about homosexuals expressions of love and they have absolutely no anger towards homosexuals, especially people they never met and do not know. They tend to be genuinely interested about what life is like for them, but no anger. They tend to connect on the issues about what it is like to fall in love with someone.

My only concern is to stop the abuse to innocent children who are defenseless and powerless to protect themselves. I would hope this was first and foremost everyone's concern. First, intelligently and thoroughly make sure, as God wants us to, if kids are safe, before speaking harmful words. Photo

The Bible and Being
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender

I learned from my studies in psychology and my personal therapy that sexual orientation is a natural development of being human and therefore cannot be considered a sin against God. This is where my guilt began, as far back as when I was a child. From further studies of those like from Daniel Helminiak, STL, PhD, PhD, LPC regarding "Does the bible condemn homosexuality?" I learned that it does not. I was experiencing a different kind of strong feeling that of needing to be protective of children when I realized through studies, therapy and my "coming out" that children as young as 4 and 5 years of age know that they are different not gay but that they do not fit in. This "different" and "not fitting in" are the effects of antigay influences experienced as a child. These same children grow up to be gay.

Realizing how long it took me to "come out" in my 40's I could not even think of putting even one child through what I went through. All that wasted time, years, opportunities for life and love lost! I came out publicly, in 1997, to draw attention to this kind of harm caused to children who grow up to be gay raised in social environments influenced by antigay social and religious norms. They are our tomorrows!!! They are loved and watched by God. NO ONE EVER SHOULD HARM A CHILD! 

Social Influence: Norms & Conformity


Sexual orientation is not the only continuum that makes up the complexity of human sexuality, there are others. However, allowing the powerful effects of social norms that are ignorant about human sexuality to continue out of fear only perpetuates the harm to generation after generation. The powerful strength of social norms to influence a person or a whole group of people should not be underestimated, as demonstrated by this video clip from Allen Funt's "Candid Camera."
Social norms can be so powerful that they can get entire groups of people to agree to go against truth and logic. This video clip is quite humorous. But it is not humorous the kind of serious harm caused to very young children and the life threatening situations even death to many others that is promulgated and perpetuated through the ignorance and fear of social norms not based on truth and facts regarding complexity of human sexuality. Read more 

The Lucifer Effect: Understanding How Good People Turn Evil






By Philip Zimbardo - Stanford University






“Rather than providing a religious analysis, however, I offer a psychological account of how ordinary people sometimes turn evil and commit unspeakable acts.”

The Power of Norms and Groups on Individuals:
Candid Camera "Face The Rear"
Whenever I enter an office-building elevator, I automatically turn and face front, do not make eye contact with other passengers, stop talking or speak only in hush tones to a companion. Are these my personal preferences or idiosyncrasies? Hardly, since most people in most elevators behave similarly. Those actions tell you little about me but a lot about the unspoken rules of public elevators. Why do we do it? Unlike signs forbidding us to smoke or advising us what to do in case of a fire, nothing in any elevator says we should act in these strange ways. Our behavior is under the control of unwritten social rules, implicit norms, which govern appropriate elevator demeanor.
We can test if such situational rules are in silent force by violating them and seeing what our own and others' reactions will be. The reactions will be either of distress or laughter at the apparent violation of these unwritten expectations. One of the most popular scenarios in the long history of Alan Funt's ingenious Candid Camera programs is "Face The Rear." An elevator is rigged so that after an unsuspecting person enters, four Candid Camera staff enter, and one by one they all face the rear. The doors close and then reopen; now revealing that the passenger had conformed and is now also facing the rear. Doors close and reopen, and everyone is facing sideways, and then face the other way. We laugh that these people are manipulated like puppets on invisible strings, but this scenario makes us aware of the number of situations in which we mindlessly follow the dictates of group norms and situational forces…
Read more: By Philip Zimbardo - Stanford University






Parallels Between the Stanford Prison Experiment and Milgram’s Obedience Research

Allen Funt's "Candid Camera" Elevator Prank – video
Power of Social Norms
Social Psychology


M U S T * P R O T E C T * C H I L D R E N

When I realized that the guilt that I had nearly all my life never had to be there or all that therapy, time and money spent. I experienced an unsettling feeling of frustration of injustice and truth that something positive has to be done to keep children safe. The criminal lack of responsibility to protect children by the Vatican and the hierarchy woke up in me this strong moral obligation that children must be protected.

The Vatican and the hierarchy believe they are (a) justified that they are not obligated to compensate people for the lifetime of harm that they have caused beginning as far back as children. In addition, (b) they are not stopping this kind of harm caused to children.

(1) How are the Vatican and the hierarchy any different than the tobacco companies who were made to be responsible to pay for the harm they caused their consumers?

(2) How can the Vatican and the hierarchy be allowed to continue to emphatically instructed people that they must believe the Vatican's antigay teachings in order to save their souls, which has been proven to cause life threatening harmful effects (see, Family Acceptance Project, Pray Away the Gay”, "Suicide Prevention Among LGBT Youth").

(3) How can the Vatican and the hierarchy not be held accountable for the harm they caused and are still causing, especially when it involves the lives of innocent children, who have no voice and are powerless to protect themselves? Catholics love their faith and remain faithful, but children must be protected against the life threatening effects caused by antigay teachings and therefore cannot remain silent.

(4) How can antigay teachings that cause this kind of child abuse, impacting youth suicide rates, and contributing to the torture and killings of LGBT people be allowed to continue, in the name of religion?

(5) Tony Blair has been the only World Leader who has spoke out, April 2009 to end this violent harm caused by the Vatican and the hierarchy's antigay teachings. Mr. Blair speaks out again after Benedict XVI attacks gay people.

Pope denounces gay marriage lobby to US bishops, 3/9/12

Blair takes on the Pope by backing gay marriage, Mar.11, 2012
Tony Blair has defied the Pope by making clear he "strongly supports" plans for gay marriage, The Independent on Sunday has learnt. The former prime minister, a Catholic since 2007, backs proposals by David Cameron for a new law allowing homosexuals to marry.
A consultation on gay marriage to be launched later this month has met fierce opposition from senior figures in the Roman Catholic Church and the Church of England.
On Friday, Pope Benedict XVI urged Catholics to block the "powerful political and cultural currents seeking to alter the legal definition of marriage".

(6) Since 2009 there has been a number of people in government in the USA and the UK – it is most encouraging – knowing that their courage is helping to protect children around the world. But still many more voices are needed to join them to protect our kids.


Recently, from the United Kingdom the Royal College of Psychiatrists announced that they share “the concern of both the American Psychiatric Association and the American Psychological Association that positions espoused by bodies like the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH) in the United States are not supported by science. There is no sound scientific evidence that sexual orientation can be changed. Furthermore so-called treatments of homosexuality as recommended by NARTH create a setting in which prejudice and discrimination can flourish.

The Royal College of Psychiatrists holds the view that lesbian, gay and bisexual people should be regarded as valued members of society who have exactly similar rights and responsibilities as all other citizens. This includes equal access to health care, the rights and responsibilities involved in a civil partnership, the rights and responsibilities involved in procreating and bringing up children, freedom to practice a religion as a lay person or religious leader, freedom from harassment or discrimination in any sphere and a right to protection from therapies that are potentially damaging, particularly those that purport to change sexual orientation.

In 1973 the American Psychiatric Association concluded there was no scientific evidence that homosexuality was a disorder and removed it from its diagnostic glossary of mental disorders.” The International Classification of Diseases of the World Health Organisation followed suit in 1992. Read more

Love The Church
And
C A N N O T * R E M A I N * S I L E N T
About
C h i l d * A b u s e

I am not against the Catholic Church or the Vatican, it is because of my strong faith that I am for keeping innocent children safe from all life threatening harm and not remain silent. How can anyone remain silent when the innocent lives of children, who have no voice and are powerless to protect themselves are threatened? The Vatican and the hierarchy have already proven their lack of responsibility of protect children from decades of ongoing child sexual abuse, how can we allow this form of child abuse caused by their antigay teachings to continue? When it comes to Judgment Day, we will all be held accountable of how well we protected the lives of innocent people and most particularly defenseless children. Will we be excused for our sin of omission by saying we were only following orders? How well are we following Christ's one command that he gave us all?

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men [women] will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another. John 13: 34-35

The Judgment

But when the Son of Man comes in His glory, and all the angels with Him, then He will sit on His glorious throne. All the nations will be gathered before Him; and He will separate them from one another, as the shepherd separates the sheep from the goats; and He will put the sheep on His right, and the goats on the left.

Then the King will say to those on His right, 'Come, you who are blessed of My Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. I was hungry, and you gave Me something to eat; I was thirsty, and you gave Me something to drink; I was a stranger, and you invited Me in; naked, and you clothed Me; I was sick, and you visited Me; I was in prison, and you came to Me.' Then the righteous will answer Him, “Lord, when did we see You hungry, and feed You, or thirsty, and give You something to drink? And when did we see You a stranger, and invite You in, or naked, and clothe You? When did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to You?” The King will answer and say to them, 'Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers [sisters] of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me.'

Then He will also say to those on Hi s left, “Depart from Me, accursed ones, into the eternal fire which has been prepared for the devil and his angels; for I was hungry, and you gave Me nothing to eat; I was thirsty, and you gave Me nothing to drink; I was a stranger, and you did not invite Me in; naked, and you did not clothe Me; sick, and in prison, and you did not visit Me.” “Then they themselves also will answer, 'Lord, when did we see You hungry, or thirsty, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not take care of You?' "Then He will answer them, 'Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to Me.' "These will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life." Matt: 25, 31-46

How To Protect Children?
With
Every Voice Helping

Changes have to be made to protect children this is first and foremost in the mind of God, as we learn from the Gospels. Fortunate Families have already suggested practical ways to address protecting children in a very Christ like manner. Every voice makes a difference in making this a safe world for children! Fortunate Families set as their goal dialogue, not confrontation. They hope to motivate people “to encourage and challenge their bishop(s) to dialogue with Catholic LGBT persons, with their Catholic parents and other family members, and with Catholic pastoral ministers who minister with both of these groups.”

Fortunate Families are concerned parents of LGBT children and they work endlessly to foster changes that will make the world a safer place not only for their children but for all LGBT people. They are dedicated to working within the Catholic Church to help foster change at the very foundation of Catholic teaching. They are continuing the work that began in 1997 when the USA Bishops released their document “Always Our Children.” It was the first document from the Catholic Church that was moving in a positive direction concerning LGBT people and they are holding the bishops accountable to their words.

Research supports that dialogue with people, such as LGBT people, parents, families and ministers helps to stop the depersonalization that takes place, which allows for inhuman treatment of innocent people to flourish uncheck. It is far more difficult to mistreat people you have met and have taken the time to know, than people you have never met. Fortunate Families have not taken on an easy goal but one that has been proven to produce long lasting effective changes. As parents of LGBT children you can well understand their fearless efforts to protect their children not just for today but far into the future.

Catholic groups are understandably mistrusted considering the antigay atmosphere that is so often found in the news regarding the Catholic Church. However, as national statistics have shown that not all Catholics in "good conscience" can be supportive of the antigay teachings and work continuously for reform. Fortunate Families is such a group. I would suggest a visit to their website and learn more. Fortunate Families are able to help educate people about LGBT issues in the Catholic Church, which is the most effective way to change attitudes. Considering that the most opposition to Marriage Equality comes from Christians who have never known LGBT people, Fortunate Families are in the front lines initiating change in favor of all LGBT people. Read more

Fr. Marty Kurylowicz, M.Div., M.S.
Property of MS Kurylowicz, May 2009
WEDNESDAY, MAY 20, 2009
Listening Parents Network -- Fortunate Families


What Can Catholics do Today to – Help Protect all Children?
Read more:

“If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” Mt 6:23 | Benedict XVI – “Light of the World” | Hitler – “Mein Kampf” | NARCISSISTIC BULLY | WORLD REMAINS SILENT  - 12/4/10





Catholics Coming Out - Fr. Marty Kurylowicz & Ricky Martin - March 29, 1997, 2010 - Leading Support Gay Marriage - NY Gov Cuomo & Vatican Attacks – March 29, 2011


Ricky Martin says he's 'a fortunate homosexual man'
By Alan Duke
CNN.com, March 29, 2010

LOS ANGELES, California (CNN) -- Pop singer Ricky Martin declared publicly this week what he avoided discussing for years: He is gay.

"I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man," Martin wrote on his official Web site. "I am very blessed to be who I am."

Now, Martin wrote, "these years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn't even know existed."

The 39-year-old Puerto Rican native started off with the Latin boy band Menudo before launching his solo career in 1991. 

His song "Livin' La Vida Loca" rose to the top of the music charts in 1999 and propelled Martin to stardom.

Martin said he decided years ago to not share "my entire truth" with the world because people he loved warned him that "everything you've built will collapse."

"Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage," he wrote. "Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions." 


Know thyself – Plato

This above all:
to thine own self be true, 
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
 William Shakespeare

Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and
pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
How can you say to your brother,
 'Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,'
 when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye?
You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then
 you will see clearly to remove
the speck from your brother's eye. - Luke 6:40-42

"At Last"

At last
My love has come along
My lonely days are over
And life is like a song

Oh yeah yeah
At last

The skies above are blue
My heart was wrapped up in clover
The night I looked at you

I found a dream, that I could speak to
A dream that I can call my own
I found a thrill to press my cheek to
A thrill that I have never known

Oh yeah yeah
You smiled, you smiled
Oh and then the spell was cast
And here we are in heaven
for you are mine...

At Last --- by ETTA JAMES

All tyranny needs
to
gain a foothold
is
for people
of
good conscience
to
remain silent.


What Can Catholics do Today to – Help Protect all Children?
Read more  in PART 6

GAY MARRIAGE – Catholic Truth ≠ Benedict XVI & hierarchy’s SPIN - Unsubstantiated Antigay Teachings & Disregard for Children – Silent Catholics COLLUDING w/B16 – Continually Hurting Kids!!! | One – Letter & Many – Copies | Anne Rice | PART 6



Injustice anywhere is a
threat to
Justice everywhere
Martin Luther King

The Nobel Peace Prize 1964
Martin Luther King Jr.



What you cannot do is accept injustice.
From Hitler – or anyone.
You must make the injustice visible
– be prepared to die like a
 soldier to do so.
Mahatma Gandhi


Kids Are Being Hurt!!!

“Someday, maybe, there will exist a well-informed, well considered and yet fervent public conviction that the most deadly of all possible sins is the mutilation of a child’s spirit.” 

…whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea. Matthew 18:6

Important note: No disrespect meant to Pope Benedict XVI or the hierarchy, the one and only concern is the safety and well-being of children.
Kids Are Being Hurt!!!




3 PSYCHOLOGICAL FACTS ABOUT GROWING UP GAY
A partial list:

1.  Sexual orientation is set either just before birth or very soon afterwards

References:
Sexual Orientation and Homosexuality - American Psychological Association
The Science of Sexual Orientation - Researchers Focus on Twins (Video) 
Attempts to Change Sexual Orientation
Sexual Conversion Therapies - by Jack Drescher, M.D.
Sexual Conversion Therapy - Ethical, Clinical and Research Perspectives (2002) -
edited by Ariel Shidlo, PhD, Michael Schroeder, PsyD, and Jack Drescher, MD
Sexual Orientation & ‘Reparative Therapy’
by Jack Drescher, MD  – video
Bibliography for Facts about Sexual Orientation

Major - Medical and Mental Heath Associations
 Policies & Position Statements - Regarding Sexual Orientation

American Psychiatric Association
American Psychiatric Association, AGLP
APSAA, American Psychoanalytic Association
American Psychological Association
American Counseling Association
American Medical Association
American Academy of Pediatrics
AFFIRM: Psychologists Affirming their  Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Family
Gay & Lesbian Medical Association (GLMA)
Gender Identity Research and Education Society - UK
Kinsey Institute for Research in  Sex, Gender, and Reproduction
National Association of School Psychologists
National Association of Social Workers
Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States

2.  Early psychological development – in a social environment that is anti-gay – causes significant harm to the child’s ability to be in relationships, with others, a job, etc.

References:
Sexual orientation is less about sex and more about love, being one with another human being. Attachment Theory - - LOVE & RELIGION
Attachment Theory
Mary Ainsworth: Attachment and the Growth of Love – video
ATTACHMENT THEORY - our first relationship with our carers acts as a LIFELONG TEMPLATE, moulding and shaping our capacity to enter into, and maintain, successful subsequent relationships with family, friends and partners...
Psychoanalytic Therapy and the Gay Man
Jack Drescher, M.D. in his book Psychoanalytic Therapy & The Gay Man
describes the complexities related to growing up gay; from his research of developmental narratives of gay adults retrospectively recalling their feelings being gay began in early childhood. These gay feelings had remained constant, and were resistant to being altered. Dr. Drescher explains the contrast of how social norms impact the psychology of the early childhood developmental years of a heterosexual boy and a homosexual boy.
Being Homosexual: Gay Men and Their Development – by  Richard A. Isay M.D.
Argues that homosexuality is biologically innate, suggests a natural developmental path for homosexuals, and discusses the problems faced in long-term gay relationships
The overstimulation of everyday life: I. New aspects of male homosexuality
Sidney H. Phillips
Western New England Institute for Psychoanalysis, USA
J Am Psychoanal Assoc 49:1235-67. 2001
Western heterosexual culture surrounds the homosexually inclined boy in a climate of erotic overstimulation that powerfully affects his development and adult sexual adaptation. This assertion is illustrated through a case presentation of a homosexual man who shared a bed with his brother from childhood into adolescence. Analysis of the patient's transference enactment—repeatedly falling asleep on the couch—gradually revealed the psychic impact of this everyday overstimulation: the creation of a tantalized inner world of longing. The regular occurrence and developmental understanding of adolescent homosexual boys' unrequited love affairs with adolescent heterosexual boys are described and explored. Finally, the overstimulation of everyday life is proposed as a new model for understanding certain behavioral aspects of male homosexuality, such as the avoidance of rough-and-tumble play in childhood and homosexual cruising.
Homosexuality: coming out of the confusion
Sidney H Phillips
Int J Psychoanal 84:1431-50. 2003
In this paper, Dr. Phillips describes the complications of how the historical context of social norms can significantly influence the classification of the components of homosexuality by clinicians causing them to be blind to their own biases. Mindful of our susceptibility to this kind of phenomenon, Dr. Phillips calls to task these biases that pathologize homosexuality simply because it is not consistent with heterosexuality and therefore to be classified as a mental disorder. He offers an alternative description of homosexuality from his clinical research that is consistent with other researchers of early childhood psychological development of children who grow up to be gay.
The Psychology of the Closeted Individual and Coming Out – Jack Drescher, MD
Many LGB individuals report developmental histories with difficulty acknowledging their homosexuality, either to themselves or to others. This is because, starting in childhood, LGB individuals are often subjected to antihomosexual attitudes, not only from strangers, but also from their own families and communities (Drescher, Stein and Byne, 2005). The childhood need to hide may persist into adulthood, leading many LGB individuals to conceal important aspects of themselves…Read more
Gay Conversion | Religious Conversion - Transforms the Damned into the Saved | COVERING - Kenji Yoshino – 2002 - The Yale Law Journal
Resource Links -- Conversion Therapy
Policy Statements of Professional Organizations
Rockway Institute - Alliant International University

3.  Gay teen suicide – Family Acceptance Project  - shows relationship between a lack of family acceptance of a gay child and the rate of substance abuse, suicide and others problems

References:
Groundbreaking Study Finds Family Acceptance of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Adolescents Protects Against Depression, Substance Abuse and Suicidal Behavior in Early Adulthood – by Caitlin Ryan, PhD, December 6, 2010 - FAMILY ACCEPTANCE PROJECT
Dr. Caitlin Ryan: Reducing Risk and Promoting Well-Being for LGBT Youth: The Critical Role of Family Support – 2009 – podcast
Dr. Caitlin Ryan: Commitment, Intentionality, and Hard Work: What It Takes To Do Culturally Competent, Ground-Breaking Research 2010 – podcast
Family Acceptance Project™ website:
Family Acceptance Project™ - Helping diverse families understand how to support their LGBT children – videos
Family Acceptance of LGBT Youth Protects Against Suicide, Depression & Substance Abuse and Predicts Better Health & Self-Esteem
School Victimization of Gender-Nonconforming LGBT Youth Linked with Depression and Quality Of Life In Adulthood
Best Practice Guidelines for Serving LGBT Youth in Out-of-Home Care
Family Acceptance Project™ Resource Links:
San Francisco State University Related Programs
LGBT Family-Related Organizations
LGBT Youth Organizations
School-Related Resources
Gender-Related Resources
LGBT Legal Advocacy Organizations
Online Resources for LGBT Youth
Hotlines
Adolescent Health
National LGBT Organizations
LGBT Health-Related Organizations
Lesbian and Gay Youth: Care and Counseling - By Caitlin Ryan and Donna Futterman
UA professor Stephen T. Russell to Explore LGBT Suicide Risk – 2008
Homophobic families harm gay teenagers, study claims - 2008

Internalized Homophobia and Relationship Quality among Lesbians, Gay Men, and Bisexuals - David M. Frost and Ilan H. Meyer - 2009
Journal of Counseling Psychology 2009, Vol. 56, No. 1, 97–109
New Report Shows Inequalities for Children with LGBT Parents
Talking About Suicide & LGBT Populations - Suicide Prevention Resource Center (SPRC)
Preventing Suicide among LGBT Youth by Effie Malley  - Suicide Prevention Resource Center (SPRC)
Homophobia Is Killing Our Youth – 2009
Gay Bullying Deaths and Religion: Are Believers the Problem or the Solution? 2010
For Many Gay Youth, Bullying Exacts a Deadly Toll – 2010
Gay bullying and Catholic responsibilities – 2010
Homophobia in the Church: What Catholics Are Doing About It, and What Still Needs to Be Done – 2010
“Most religious denominations continue to condemn homosexuality as sinful and
provide a rationale for marginalizing LGB people.” - Suicide Prevention Resource Center (SPRC)
SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT - Although the social environment itself has not been defined as a risk factor for suicide, widespread discrimination against LGBT people, heterosexist attitudes, and gender bias can lead to risk factors such as isolation, family rejection, and lack of access to care providers. Risk factors may interact in unhealthy ways—for example, internalized homophobia or victimization may lead to stress, which is associated with depression and substance abuse, which can contribute to suicide risk. This risk may be compounded by a lack of protective factors that normally provide resilience, such as strong family connections, peer support, and access to effective health and mental health providers…
Herek and colleagues (2007) describe a framework to understand the social environment for sexual minorities. The framework integrates the sociological idea of stigma with the psychological idea of prejudice. Through stigma, society discredits and invalidates homosexuality relative to heterosexuality. Institutions embodying stigma results in heterosexism, and heterosexual individuals internalizing stigma results in prejudice. The United States legal system has faced challenges by sexual minorities and sympathetic heterosexuals that have led to significant changes. However, the legal system continues to reinforce stigma through discriminatory laws and the absence of laws protecting sexual minorities from discrimination in employment, housing, and services. A minority of states had antidiscrimination laws as of 2005, and most of these only referred to employment and not to housing or services. Most religious denominations continue to condemn homosexuality as sinful and provide a rationale for marginalizing LGB people…
See no Race, See no Gay: What Proponents of a Gay-Blind Approach to Bullying in the Schools can Learn from Race Relations - by Kira Hudson Banks, Ph.D. and Nestor L. Lopez-Duran PhD,
2010 - Psychology Today
Bullying, gay teen suicides, and a need for a solution – 2010 - Nestor L. Lopez-Duran, PhD. - clinical child psychologist and researcher, University of Michigan
Bullies and Victims: Boys will be boys or a symptom of distress? 2009 -Child Psychology Research
The cruelties of STRUCTURAL VIOLENCE on CHILDREN are often subtle, unspoken, unrecognized, and even normalized, regarded by many people as natural or “just the way things are.” Daniel J. Christie - Peace, Conflict, and Violence:
Peace Psychology for the 21st Century.
Pope’s child porn 'normal' claim sparks outrage among victims -122110
Related links:
John Jay Report: On Not Blaming Homosexual Priests – 51711
"No public figure talks more about child safety but does little to actually make children safer than Pope Benedict" 112611
The New John Jay Report on Clergy Abuse in the Catholic Church – “The researchers conclude that there is no causative relationship between either celibacy or homosexuality and the sexual victimization of children in the Church.” 51811
Facts about Homosexuality and Child Molestation - Gregory M. Herek, Ph.D.
Roman Catholic Hierarchy child sexual abuse “cover-ups” ordered by Benedict XVI to avoid public outrage & criminal charges falsely accused gay priests, WATERGATE? – January 2, 2010


 GAY MARRIAGE - Benedict XVI Dismisses Science Reason – Natural Law | Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely | PART 1

GAY MARRIAGE – Understanding – NATURAL LAW & How it can be used? – With or Without - Reason & Rational |To Support - Benedict XVI & Hierarchy’s Vague & Negative Statements Against Homosexuality | PART 2

GAY MARRIAGE – “Doublespeak” Benedict XVI - IRRATIONAL Shift Blame Gays – Evading UN Accusations Global COVER-UPS Child Sexual Abuse “…a COMPLETE FAILURE to take responsibility” | PART 3

GAY MARRIAGE – Non-Violence is Key - Use of Violent Confrontation Strategies - The Moral Arguments of People Who Are Being Unjustly Treated Become Irrelevant – The Use of Violence Only Creates More Violence | PART 4

GAY MARRIAGE – Propaganda Tactics|B16’s Naturalistic fallacy & Homosexuality - Dehumanizing, Depriving Civil Rights, Silencing Gays - Covering Up B16 Crimes Against Children 30+yrs? |PART 5

What Can Catholics do Today to – Help Protect all Children?

GAY MARRIAGE – Catholic Truth ≠ Benedict XVI & hierarchy’s SPIN - Unsubstantiated Antigay Teachings & Disregard for Children – Silent Catholics COLLUDING w/B16 – Continually Hurting Kids!!! | One – Letter & Many – Copies | Anne Rice | PART 6

GAY MARRIAGE – Homosexuality for Catholics or anyone? "WHY IT IS A 'GIFT' FROM GOD!!!" And when we accept and value this gift from God – we are able to experience love like never before, and we are able to love. | PART 7





 

1 comment:

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